Bangalore from silicon city to suicide city

Crime in India increased by 4.9 percent in 2010 By ANI | ANI – 2 hours 11 minutes ago 2 1 Email Print New Delhi, Oct 27 (ANI): Union Home Minister P. Chidambaram released "Crime In India-2010" a publication of national importance brought out by National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) here today, which showed crime in 2010 rose by 4.9 per cent compared to 2009. NCRB publishes Crime in India from the year 1953 and the current edition "Crime in India-2010"is its 58th edition. India's Silicon Valley Bangalore remains the suicide capital of the country with 1,778 cases reported, according to the crime statistics for 2010 published by the National Crime Records Bureau. Crime in India is a compilation and analysis of crime statistics on various types of crimes which had taken place in that year in India. This report is widely referred by policy makers, police personnel, researchers, NGOs, media persons and other stake holders. NCRB has digitized all the editions of crime in India from 1953 to 2010 and accidental deaths and suicides in India from the year 1967 to 2010. . NCRB has planned to bring out the next edition of these reports in the month of April 2012. It is also implementing crime and criminal tracking network and systems, a mission mode project of the Home Ministry under national e-Governance plan to connect all the 15000 police stations and 6000 odd higher police offices across the country. This project is likely to be rolled out by March 2012. Once this project becomes operational, the publication of these reports would become available at the end of the year as NCRB will receive data on-line. Crime in 2010 has increased by 4.9 per cent compared to 2009. In 2010 a total of 22,24,831 crimes were reported under Indian Penal Code against 21,21,345 cases in the year 2009. Murder cases during the year 2010 (33,335) went up by 3.0 per cent as compared to 2009 (32,369). Cases under the following heads shown an increasing trend in the year 2010 compared to 2009 - Attempt to commit murder increased by 1.3 per cent, rape cases increased by 3.6 per cent, kidnapping and abduction cases increased by 13.5 per cent, robbery cases increased by 4.4 per cent and dowry deaths increased by 0.1 per cent. (ANI) @yahooinnews on Twitter and Facebook

mental illness blinded hitler, Chemicals that show the mind's mechanics

Study: Mental illness, not gas attack, blinded Hitler PTI | Oct 24, 2011, 06.14AM IST LONDON: It was one of the most notorious stories that Germany's Nazi dictator Adolf Hitler used to say - his First World War experience ended when he was blinded by a British mustard gas attack. Now, a new research has exposed Hitler's account of his own gallantry as a sham, and revealed that his temporary loss of sight was caused by a mental disorder known as "hysterical blindness" and not the mustard gas attack he alleged. Hitler had claimed numerous times, including in his autobiography 'Mein Kampf', that the British attacked in October 1918 south of Ypres using a "yellow gas unknown to us". By morning, his eyes "were like glowing coals, and all was darkness around me" , he wrote. But, historian Thomas Weber of University of Aberdeen, says he has uncovered unpublished letters between two American neurologists from 1943, which debunk Hitler's claim. The correspondence showed that Otfried Foerster , a renowned German neurosurgeon, had inspected Hitler's medical file, and found that he was treated for hysterical amblyopia, a psychiatric disorder that can make sufferers lose sight. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Chemicals that show the mind's mechanics Updated: 2011-10-23 08:02

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72 year old falls from balcony, Madhuri lookalike says she was depressed for a long time

72-year-old falls off balcony, dies TNN Oct 20, 2011, 03.24AM IST MUMBAI: A 72-year-old man died after he fell from the balcony of his 16th floor flat in Rameshwar building near Kirti College at Shivaji Park on Wednesday. According to the police, the incident occurred around 12.30pm. Manohar Shah lost his balance while leaning over the balcony in his flat and fell, said the police. The building's watchman heard a loud thud and rushed to the spot, only to find Shah lying in a pool of blood. He informed Shah's family about the incident. Shah was taken to Hinduja Hospital, where he was declared dead on arrival. The Dadar police have registered a case of accidental death. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Bar girl jumps off sea link, 3 Worli fishermen save her 23-yr-old Shehnaz Khan was not able to land another job after a bar in Tardeo shut down Nazia Sayed and Lata Mishra Mail this article Mail this page Print this article Print this page Translate this page Translate this page Rate me.... Share Share Reddit.com Share del.icio.us Share StumbleUpon.com 0digg Posted On Monday, October 24, 2011 at 03:33:37 AM An out-of-work bar girl jumped off the Bandra Worli Sea Link in a suicide bid on Saturday night – only to be foiled by three fishermen. Twenty-three-year-old Shehnaz Khan, from Worli Hill Road, reached the sea link around 2.30 am. There were hardly any vehicles on the bridge, and no one from the toll collection point too spotted her, as she stood on a railing around 50 mt from the seafront. Unbeknown to her, three fishermen – Yuvraj Varpe, Vinayak Zille and Manish Singh - were watching her. The three live in Worli fishermen’s colony, and were sitting on tetrapods below the bridge, preparing to sail out in the sea in the next couple of hours. The trio sensed trouble when they saw Shehnaz standing on the bridge railing, and shouted to her, but she jumped off. Varpe dialled the police control room from his mobile phone, and was told that he should try and save the woman while a police team was being rushed there. Varpe, Zille and Singh dived into the sea, and reached Shehnaz within five minutes. But fishing her out of the water proved more difficult than reaching her, as she kept pushing the men away and screaming at them. “Let me die, get away from me,” Shehnaz yelled at her saviours. Varpe said, “The girl was very violent, hell bent on killing herself. She kept pushing us away while we tried to get her out of the water. But she appeared in a lot of pain, and after a while, stopped resisting. By the time, the police and fire brigade officials had arrived.” Shehnaz had hurt her back, and her left foot was swollen too. She was taken to Poddar Hospital, where the police realised they were dealing with a person who was extremely paranoid, and possibly mentally unstable. For a long time, she refused to speak to the cops, but the hospital doctors managed to get her talking. Shehnaz told the police that she came to Mumbai 10 years ago, and managed to earn a lot of money working in a bar at Tardeo. Some months ago, however, the bar shut down. Unable to find a job and struggling to support her mother and a younger brother, Shehnaz was plunged into depression. There were problems with her boyfriend as well, depressing her further. On Saturday night, she faked restlessness, and told her mother she needed a walk. Locking the door of her house in Zari Mari Darshan building from the outside, she went to the sea link to commit suicide, she told the police. Her mother was shocked when the police knocked on the door early in the morning, telling her about Shehnaz’s suicide attempt. “She told me she will return home in 10 minutes. I should have sensed her intentions, as she told me to take care of my son,” her mother said. Senior Inspector Vasant Tajne from Worli Police Station said, “It’s obvious the girl is disturbed. Luckily, three fishermen were there to save her.” Shehnaz sounded totally paranoid when Mirror spoke to her on Sunday night. “I was frustrated and wanted to kill myself. If I didn’t kill myself, they will. I am just unlucky to be alive.” When asked who were after her life, she just muttered: “Whoever has troubled me will pay for it.” In November last year, a man in his 30s had jumped off the sea link just hours before the arrival of US President Barack Obama in the city, sparking panic in the security establishment. The man, a constable present at the spot had reported, had thrown something into the sea before taking the plunge. The cops had ruled out suicide in that case, saying the CCTV footage had shown the man swimming around 100 metres and then drowning. Handling people on the Bandra Worli Sea Link is a contentious issue between the police and MSRDC, which maintains the sea link, with both claiming the other is responsible for preventing people from misusing the property. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Madhuri lookalike in Mira Road Avantika Kamath, hailed as the new age Mads in 2003, had her Bollywood dreams shattered, went into depression and is struggling to make a life. Mumbai Mirror finds out what went wrong Posted On Monday, October 24, 2011 at 02:48:39 AM Avantika Kamath won the Main Bhi Madhuri contest organised by a leading cosmetic brand in 2003. After being crowned the next Madhuri Dixit by the judges Dharmendra, MF Husain and Madhuri Dixit herself, Avantika was promised a sparkling debut in Bollywood opposite Salman Khan by the organisers. The promise never materialised. And the new age Madhuri faded into oblivion. Mumbai Mirror found Avantika, who has just completed shooting for three Marathi films. "I was promised a film opposite Salman, a portfolio shoot by a celebrity photographer and a dinner with Madhuri. None of these ever happened. However, I did say anything at that time since people might have perceived it as a cheap publicity stunt," revealed Avantika. What was worse, Avantika wasn't even allowed to approach other filmmakers in the industry. "I had even dropped out of college for the film," added Avantika. Looking back at the contest held in December 2003, Avantika, currently living in Mira Road, said, "It was painful. When my dreams were shattered, I went into depression. It took me two years of medication to recover and start my struggle all over again." The cosmetic brand that organised the contest, when contacted, said, "The range called 'Madhuri's Secrets' was discontinued due to Madhuri's pregnancy. So, the whole project was cancelled. However, few of the commitments we made were even carried out. A television show performance was also organised for Avantika." Madhuri Dixit currently in Dehradun, remained unavailable for comment. =-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

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Suicides in the past week 15th to 26th oct 2011

Teenaged boy, lover end life in bhopal Upset at family members dissapproval of their relationship 15 year old jeet Yadav and 15 year old Ayushi Gupta from Bhopal committed suicide by jumping in front of a running train(Narmada Express).on tues 25th Oct 2011 --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- IIT graduate commits suicide A 25 year old indian Administrative Service aspirant Amit Singh committed suicide over a failed relationship.The former IIT Delhi student hanged himself at his rented house in Govindpuri on Sunday 23rd Oct 2011. The police recovered a suicide note. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- A 21-year-old management student committed suicide by jumping from a building terrace at Andheri (W) on Thursday night. (20th oct 2011)..Dimple Harijani, originally from Gujarat lived on the 12th floor of Royal Classique building, new link road. She had come to Mumbai only a few months ago. She was depressed after her mother passed away recently. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Harassed by Crime Branch, man tries to kill himself outside RR Patil’s office Published: Tuesday, Oct 18, 2011, 8:30 IST By Somendra Sharma | Place: Mumbai | Agency: DNA A 33-year-old man tried to commit suicide by consuming at least 15 sleeping pills outside the office of state home minister RR Patil in the Mantralaya on Monday after being allegedly harassed by the Crime Branch officials. In his letter to the home minister, the victim alleged that he was assaulted and wrongfully detained by the Crime Branch officials in Ghatkopar. But, the police claimed that he was into criminal activities and duped people by posing as a fake policeman. The victim has been identified as Vinod Sonkamble, a resident of Bhimjeevan Chawl Committee at Valmiki Nagar in Ghatkopar. He is currently undergoing treatment at the GT Hospital. According to the Marine Drive police, the incident took place at 4pm on Monday outside Patil’s office in the Mantralaya. “Sonkamble had given an application at Patil’s office stating that officers of Unit 7 (Ghatkopar) of crime branch had confined him wrongfully for three days and assaulted him,” said inspector MG Inamdar. “After consuming the sleeping pill, Sonkamble informed the security officers at the Mantralaya about it and started vomiting. He was rushed to GT Hospital,” said Inamdar. “We will record his statement once he is fit. We would then book him on charge of attempt to commit suicide,” said another police officer. “Recently, a businessman was robbed by a few men of Rs60 lakh. The accused claimed to be policemen. One of the sketches of the suspects resembled Sonkamble and so we detained him,” said an officer of the Ghatkopar Crime Branch. Relatives and friends of Sonkamble claimed that the police were acting on the instance of two civic officials, who were suspended five months ago following a complaint filed against them based on RTI query by Sonkamble. “He had sought details regarding an illegal construction at Saki Naka five months ago. He had met top civic officials regarding the illegal construction work after which a L ward junior engineer and another civic employee were suspended,” said Nayan Pumbhadiya, a friend of Sonkamble’s. The home minister has ordered a probe into the incident by joint commissioner of police (crime) Himanshu Roy. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Here’s why 230 of the 280 nurses at the premier hospital have been striking Why Asian Heart flutters Lathicharge on Friday compounds nurses’ allegation of bad language by senior doctors Jyoti Shelar Not Bad Not Bad Not Bad Not Bad Not Bad Mail this article Mail this page Print this article Print this page Translate this page Translate this page Rate me.... Share Share Reddit.com Share del.icio.us Share StumbleUpon.com 0digg Posted On Saturday, October 22, 2011 at 02:40:26 AM It’s routinely listed among the country’s top five-star hospitals and its managing director is the Prime Minister’s heart doctor, but for the last three days, following the suicide of one of its nurses, the Asian Heart Hospital at Bandra-Kurla Complex has turned into a battleground between the management and the nursing staff. On Friday the police lathi-charged the protesting nurses leading to hospitalization of three of them. Of the 280 nurses employed at Asian Heart 230 are on strike. On Friday when a recovering patient demanded that he be attended by the same nurse who had been taking care of him since he was hospitalized, the management summoned the said nurse and offered to treble his salary if he resumed work but he refused preferring to join his striking colleagues. Nurses say they are protesting stressful working condition and allege verbal abuse by doctors and management. ‘We are often humiliated before patients…Called b*****d, morons and other derogatory names,” said one of the strikers. The management in turn alleges that sometimes they are forced to take drastic action because of errant nurses. “What is one supposed to do when nurses start celebrating birthdays inside operation theatres as we caught some doing on camera recently,’ asks medical director Dr Vijay D’Silva. ‘Or in the case of the nurse who forgot to administer an injection to a patient?’ The suicide three days ago of 22-year-old nurse Beena Baby, allegedly due to harassment from her superiors, triggered the simmering unrest. While Baby did not leave a suicide note, the hospital spokesperson cited an Economic and Political Weekly study claiming that Malyalis have an abnormally high suicide rate as a possible reason. The nub of the matter however lies with the two-year bond that the hospital signs with all nursing staff. In lieu of employment the hospital retains all their original educational certificates. If anyone breaks the bond they have to deposit Rs 50,000 before they can reclaim their certificates. With salaries as low as ten to twelve thousand rupees, the fine is nearly impossible to pay, contend nurses. On Thursday the management, trying to quell discontent, offered to release all the nurses from this bond and unconfirmed reports said that a hundred nurses were likely to take this up and walk out. “We do not want the bond system, we want the experience certificate and we want to work in a harassment free environment. The management however is not keen to offer us any of this,” said Jijo John, a nurse from the AHI’s cathlab. “The rest were threatened legal action against them for participating in the strike. The management further said that those who agree to work in the hospital will be re-interviewed and the management will then decide if they want the nurses back. However they will not issue any experience certificates,” added John. While the nurses claimed that the OPD services were badly affected and the patients on ventilator were shifted to other hospitals, Dr D’silva refuted the claims. “The OPD’s are functioning properly. We have not shifted any patients. One patient who was on ventilator took discharge on Thursday while we are managing all the others. We are offering all the services to the patients and the strike has not affected our functioning,” said D’Silva. The nurses say that other hospitals too keep the original certificates and have the bond system. However they have good working environment. “Nurses face a lot of harassment at AHI. They are blamed for mistakes committed by doctors. Worse, abuses are hurled at them - at a hospital that claims to be a top-class medical facility,” said Anoop Chacko, who worked at the hospital for two years before quitting over harassment. On Friday, Chacko, now with Kohinoor Hospital, visited AHI to offer support to former colleagues. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Nurse commits suicide, colleagues blame senior 22-yr-old worked in Asian Heart Institute; she was allegedly humiliated by her senior Yogesh Sadhwani and Ketan Ranga Posted On Wednesday, October 19, 2011 at 03:25:53 AM A 22-year-old nurse with Asian Heart Institute, Bandra Kurla Complex, committed suicide on Monday night. Her body was found hanging from a ceiling fan in the staff quarters at Santa Cruz, but there was no suicide note. The deceased, Beena Baby, had an altercation with her senior at work, and had walked out of the hospital on Monday evening with tears gushing down her face, her colleagues said. Beena had been working in the hospital for the past five months. Her colleague said, “On Monday, she had an altercation with our senior, and was screamed at. Beena wanted to quit, but the senior reminded her of the bond system, in which a nurse has to pay the hospital Rs 50,000 if he/she quits before completing two years of service. Till that time, the nurses’ educational certificates are retained by the hospital authorities.” Another nurse added that Beena had felt despondent after the fight. “She was from a poor family and felt trapped. Even when she was leaving for the staff quarters after duty hours, she was crying,” the nurse said. The staff quarters are near Rajesh Khanna Garden in Santa Cruz. Beena stayed in one of the apartments with seven other nurses, her colleagues said. Many of Beena’s colleagues have had fights with the senior in question, and following Beena’s suicide, approached president of Kerala Cultural Society, Manoj Kumar Kutty, and got a police complaint filed. The hospital authorities denied harassment charges. Dr Vijay D’Silva, medical director, Asian Heart Institute said: “Obviously (it is) a very unfortunate incident... All we can say is the suicide was due to personal reasons. The matter is being investigated by the police and we are cooperating with them. The Asian Heart Family prays for her peace, and we are with her bereaved family in grief.” Beena’s father Joseph told Mumbai Mirror from Thodopuzha in Kerala, that his daughter was fed up of her job. “She desperately wanted to quit, but she was being asked to pay Rs 50,000. We were duped by the agent who got her the job at the hospital; he had assured Rs 13,000 as salary but Beena was being paid only Rs 10,000.” Senior Inspector Madhukar Chowdhary said, “We haven’t booked anyone yet. We are waiting for the girl’s parents.” ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 280 nurses go on strike after colleague's suicide HT Correspondent, Hindustan Times Mumbai, October 20, 2011 Email to Author First Published: 01:14 IST(20/10/2011) Last Updated: 01:17 IST(20/10/2011) Share more... 6 Comments Email print A day after a 22-year-old nurse working at the Asian Heart Institute Hospital at Bandra-Kurla Complex committed suicide, 280 nurses from the hospital went on a flash strike on Wednesday to protest the alleged "inhuman treatment" meted out to them by the hospital. On Tuesday, nurse Beena Baby, ended her life in her Khar apartment. Baby's colleagues alleged she committed suicide after hospital authorities harassed her for misplacing a patient's ultrasound report. Authorities, however, denied the allegation. The hospital announced a compensation of Rs 5 lakh for Baby on Wednesday. Nurses at the hospital said they were unhappy with the working conditions. Nurses claimed that the hospital asked all nurses to sign a two-year bond whereby the hospital retains their original graduation certificates. If a nurse wants to take the certificate before the two-year period ends, she has to pay Rs 50,000. "We want the hospital to return our certificates and scrap the bond policy," said Melvin Mathew, a staff nurse. The nurses also want the hospital to issue an experience certificate to all nurses stating their duration of work. The nurses called off the strike at 4pm after hospital authorities assured them that they would get their certificates. "We will give them the certificates provided they join duty. The retention of certificates is a standard practice across hospitals in India. If you train someone, you expect a commitment from them," said Dr Vijay D'Silva, medical director of the hospital. The nurses said they would collect the certificates on Thursday. The nurses claimed nurses were fired for arbitrary reasons. Jinsu Anne Alex said she was fired last week because she forgot to seal the intra-venous fluid line after disconnecting it from a patient's hand. "I don't have the money to get my certificates." "If a nurse is negligent, we do not tolerate that. The terminated staff will also have to pay Rs 50,000 to take the certificate as it is their training cost," said Dr D'Silva. 200 nursing students stage protest Mumbai: Nearly 200 nursing students from JJ hospital staged a protest on Wednesday morning alleging that third-year students were failed in practical examinations by an examiner. "An examiner is biased against us. We want the university to reassess the matter," said Ganesh Rajwade, a student. The students have threatened to go on an indefinite hunger strike from Thursday, demanding an inquiry into the matter. Out of 53 students, 32 have failed in paediatric and psychiatric nursing. According to Dr Udaysinh Raorane, controller of examination, MUHS, only eight students failed. The students alleged that Meena Sonawane marked them poorly as they had complained about her. Sonawane, a professor of nursing, said, "There were two examiners who gave combined marks for this exam." Dr TP Lahane, dean of JJ Hospital, said two doctors from the MUHS would look into the matter on Thursday. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Bandra hospital nurses call off stir Sumitra Deb Roy, TNN Oct 23, 2011, 03.08AM IST MUMBAI: The 180-odd nurses of Bandra's Asian Heart Hospital (AHI), who were locked in a bitter battle with the management for the last four days, called off their strike on Saturday. This came after the hospital agreed to return their education certificates and experience letters. The problems for AHI, however, may not be over yet. A majority of the striking nurses have decided to collect their certificates and quit. "At least 80% of us are not willing to stay back. We will collect the certificates and start our job hunt," said M Matthew, a nurse. He said the nurses found the work environment "stressful and harassing". The strike was triggered by one of their colleagues, Beena Baby (21), committing suicide on Tuesday.The stand-off has resulted in cancellation and postponement of surgeries. Some patients said that only a handful of nurses was attending to most of the patients. Hospital insiders as well as the striking nurses said that relatives of at least two patients moved them to another hospital. The hospital management, however, has maintained that 50 nurses were looking after the patients. AHI vice-chairman and cardiac surgeon Dr Ramakant Panda said on Saturday that another 20 nurses had resumed worked. "We had 80 more nurses at our disposal. They were hired as the hospital is planning to increase its bed strength by 100," he added. Panda said the nurses will get their original certificates back. "The nurses can stay in the hospital quarters for 10 days even if they resign," he said. The hospital, however, stood by its decision to re-interview the nurses before taking them back. The nursing staff who will rejoin will have to give a guarantee/commitment for the remaining part of their two year contract, a hospital spokesperson said. There is no law that says anything against minimum employment period against training. The hospital management softened its stand after the intervention of Kerala MPs P T Thomas and Jose Mani. Both flew down to Mumbai on Friday night after the hospital refused to negotiate with local associations representing the nurses. "Nurses from Kerala work here at meagre salaries. On top of that, hospitals tie them with such inhuman bonds," Thomas said.

Frustration, stress ,price rise makes youth turn violent

Introduction Violence. It's the act of purposefully hurting someone. And it's a major issue facing today's young adults. One in 12 high schoolers is threatened or injured with a weapon each year. If you're between the ages of 12 and 24, you face the highest risk of being the victim of violence. At the same time, statistics show that by the early 1990's the incidence of violence caused by young people reached unparalleled levels in American society. There is no single explanation for the overall rise in youth violence. Many different factors cause violent behavior. The more these factors are present in your life, the more likely you are to commit an act of violence. What causes someone to punch, kick, stab or fire a gun at someone else or even him/herself? There is never a simple answer to that question. But people often commit violence because of one or more of the following: Expression. Some people use violence to release feelings of anger or frustration. They think there are no answers to their problems and turn to violence to express their out of control emotions. Manipulation. Violence is used as a way to control others or get something they want. Retaliation. Violence is used to retaliate against those who have hurt them or someone they care about. Violence is a learned behavior. Like all learned behaviors, it can be changed. This isn't easy, though. Since there is no single cause of violence, there is no one simple solution. The best you can do is learn to recognize the warning signs of violence and to get help when you see them in your friends or yourself. Factors that contribute to violent behavior include: peer pressure need for attention or respect feelings of low self-worth early childhood abuse or neglect witnessing violence at home, in the community or in the media easy access to weapons Often people who act violently have trouble controlling their feelings. They may have been hurt by others. Some think that making people fear them through violence or threats of violence will solve their problems or earn them respect. This isn't true. People who behave violently lose respect. They find themselves isolated or disliked, and they still feel angry and frustrated. If you see these immediate warning signs, violence is a serious possibility: loss of temper on a daily basis frequent physical fighting significant vandalism or property damage increase in use of drugs or alcohol increase in risk-taking behavior detailed plans to commit acts of violence announcing threats or plans for hurting others enjoying hurting animals carrying a weapon If you notice the following signs over a period of time, the potential for violence exists: a history of violent or aggressive behavior serious drug or alcohol use gang membership or strong desire to be in a gang access to or fascination with weapons, especially guns threatening others regularly trouble controlling feelings like anger withdrawal from friends and usual activities feeling rejected or alone having been a victim of bullying poor school performance history of discipline problems or frequent run-ins with authority feeling constantly disrespected failing to acknowledge the feelings or rights of others

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A new book alleges Walter Payton abused drugs, was suicidal

Book: Walter Payton Abused Drugs, Suicidal Michael Vick REUTERS/Tami Chappell A new book claims that Hall of Fame running back Walter Payton abused painkillers in retirement and became suicidal. Jeff Pearlman, who is the author of "Sweetness: The Enigmatic Life of Walter Payton", writes that the former Chicago Bears star used a cocktail of Tylenol and Vicodin in retirement. He also details that Payton kept tanks of nitrous oxide in his garage and secured Ritalin from a friend. Payton's agent, Bud Holmes, is quoted in the book as saying, "Walter was pounding his body with medication." The former football standout had lived apart from his wife, Corinne, during the mid-1990s and was having extramarital affairs following his retirement. During Payton's 1993 Hall of Fame induction, both his wife and mistress attended the event. Payton retired as the NFL's all-time leading rusher after the 1987 season. He died from a rare liver disease and bile duct cancer in 1999.

Bangalore No 1 in suicides, suicides around the country

-- Hospitral says suicide, Family alleges murder A 21 year old employee of a chembur hospital who was found unconsciouson wednesday 12th Oct 2011, evening died on Thursday .Trtaces of a potentially fatal chemical were found in her stomach. While authorities at the Mangal Anand hospital where Diana Sahoo worked as an assistant in the pathological lab, say she committed suicide, her family allege foul play. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 3 hang selves Deccan Herald 2011-10-05: Bangalore, Oct 4, DHNS: Wednesday, October 05, 2011 --> Three persons, including two homemakers, allegedly committed suicide in separate incidents in the City. A bank employee was found dead, hanging from the ceiling fan at his house in JP Nagar on Sunday. The dead identified as Abhishek Sharma (27), was a native of Chhattisgarh. He was residing in Bangalore for the past one year. The incident came to light when Sharma did not respond to telephone calls made by his family members. His family members asked a few of his friends in the City ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Inter student sets herself ablaze The Siasat Daily 2011-10-03: Hyderabad, October 03: Despite a series of appeals from political leaders, suicides for Telangana cause are continuing. An 18-year-old Intermediate student immolated herself for the separate state cause at her house in Hayatnagar. The victim was identified as D Bhavani, an Intermediate first year student of Navodaya Junior College in Nagole. According to police, Bhavani, who was an active participant in Telangana movement,... more » ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Housewife commit suicide DNA India 2011-10-01: A thirty-year-old housewife, identified as Deepmala Singh, committed suicide by hanging herself at her residence in Malad (west) after her husband and in-laws allegedly demanded Rs1 crore from her father to buy a new flat. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 17 year old jumps into the Ganga The Times of India 2011-10-02: PATNA: Exam-related stress claimed yet another life with a Class XII student of a city school jumping into the Ganga from the Gandhi Setu on Saturday afternoon. An engineering aspirant Abhishek Kumar, 17, was son of vet Dr Ganaur Rai who is also a member of a milk cooperative ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 19 year old found dead near Sanjay Gandhi National Park Indian Express 2011-10-02: The body of a 19-year-old boy, who was missing for the past 10 days, was found inside the Sanjay Gandhi National Park on Sunday. The remains of the boy's body were found near the lake -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Elderly woman and nephew found dead Indian Express 2011-10-11: An elderly woman and her nephew were found dead in a house in Pathanwadi in the Bhendi Bazaar area on Monday after their neighbours called the police complaining of a foul smell emanating from the house. Both deceased — Fehmida Shaikh, aged 57. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Two young cousins found dead under mysterious circumstances The Hindu 2011-10-11: Two young cousins were found dead under mysterious circumstances in Rohini here on Sunday night. The police said on Monday that they are probing all possibilities. The tragedy came to light around 9 p.m. when a passer-by noticed a man lying unconscious near a car parked close to the local police station ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The dark side of Bangalore Shining: It’s No.1 in suicides in country Moribund congress - By KiranCongress has taken v... - By BhartiRe : oh yea! - By RamanGujrat-bhatt - By P V NamjoshiGujarat sanjjev bhat... - By P V NamjoshiDelay in bail - By MayankSanjeev bhatt - By Sudhir Chopra Earlier this week, Baldev ‘Baldy’ Singh, 58, a distinguished test pilot and a director with Hindustan Aeronautics Limited, hanged himself on the outskirts of Bangalore. A few weeks ago, a 24-year old MBA student, Malini Murmu, killed herself in her IIM-Bangalore hostel. Both cases made national headlines. But in Bangalore, hundreds of lesser-known suicide cases are catalogued in police records. According to the National Crime Records Bureau’s (NCRB) chief statistical officer Akhilesh Kumar, for many years Bangalore has been India’s number one city in suicides. The data for 2010, as yet unreleased, reinforces that India’s Silicon City is also its Suicide Capital. In 2009, Bangalore recorded 2,167 suicides versus 1,051 in teeming Mumbai, and 1,215 in the more-populous Delhi city. Data published by the NCRB shows that Bangalore is also number one in suicide rate (suicides per 100,000 population), a trend that the big city shares with smaller towns like Jabalpur, Rajkot and Coimbatore. Ads by Google 1Crore Life Cover - L I C Get 1Crore security @ Rs.818* pm & Save Your Family From Any Mishapwww.PolicyBazaar.comReal Story About 2G Scam Only 22% of Companies Chargesheeted By CBI, Who are the rest ?www.2gscam.co.inA Perfect CV Format. The Format Accepted by all MNC's. Just Fill the Fields.MonsterIndia.com/CV- Dr N Satish Chandra, the director of NIMHANS, blames it on rapid socio-cultural changes in the face of furious development. Bangalore is a city of wannabe achievers who want the maximum, he says. “It is a city where failure is not an option.” Every Tuesday afternoon, counsellor Anita Gracias becomes “Anu” and works the suicide helpline at SAHAI. “Bangalore has a large population pouring in from every remote corner to study and work. They ask, ‘Who do I trust?’ Where can I make a genuine friend?’.” Many callers at the helpline, she adds, dial in to ask about the most painless form of suicide. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Mother sets daughter on fire,kills self Deccan Herald 2011-10-16: Bangalore, Oct 16, DHNS: Monday, October 17, 2011 --> A 34-year-old mother of two set her youngest daughter on fire before setting herself ablaze in the bathroom of her house in Banashankari on Sunday afternoon. Deepa (34) whose husband Prasad is a structural engineer poured kerosene from a plastic bottle on her seven-year-old daughter Mukta and set her ablaze around 2.30 pm. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Depressed woman, son commit suicide TNN Oct 15, 2011, 07.15AM IST BANGALORE: A 65-year-old woman and her 35-year-old son allegedly committed suicide by hanging themselves from a ceiling fan in their house in Central Public Works Department (CPWD) quarters in Domlur on Wednesday night. Before taking the extreme step, G Ambika and son R Srinivasan stuck a note on their front door with a message scribbled in English: "If anyone wishes to see us, they may break open the door." ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Man ends life, family claim he was forced to become homosexual Indian Express 2011-10-02: Family members of a 24-year-old homosexual Malvani resident, who killed himself on Saturday, have alleged that his partner, with whom he shared the house, had forced him to alter his lifestyle. The police have registered a case of suicide. Mahesh Soni had appeared on Rakhi Ka.Swayamvar --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Techie in trouble as wife ends life The Times of India 2011-10-12: BANGALORE: Twenty-four-year-old H S Mamatha, who went to her native Sringeri in Chikmagalur district following alleged harassment by her husband, returned to her marital house here 10 days ago after neighbours bothered her with queries. Late on Monday.. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Another youth ends life for Telangana The Siasat Daily 2011-10-09: Hyderabad, October 09: Yet another youngster has ended his life for the cause of separate Telangana . Katti Kumar (25), a car driver and resident of Kongara Kalan village in Ibrahimpatnam mandal. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Man hangs self for Telangana The Siasat Daily 2011-10-08: Hyderabad, October 08: An elderly person hanged himself to death in Saroornagar mandal on Thursday evening leaving behind a suicide note stating that his last rites should be performed by a Telangana supporter. The deceased, V Rama Sharma.. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Happy couple commits suicide The Times of India 2011-10-07: PANAJI: A young couple working in the IT industry committed suicide by hanging themselves at their residence in Merces, just outside Panaji. The decomposed bodies were found by Old Goa police on Thursday night after neighbours complained of a foul smell emerging from the flat. Police suspect the couple-Anand, 39 and Deepa Ranthidevan, 36-from South India. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Suicide screening should be part of hospital procedure, panel says Inpatient suicides are the second-most frequently reported safety lapse and often occur in medical and surgical units. By Kevin B. O'Reilly, amednews staff. Posted Dec. 8, 2010. Suicides frequently occur beyond psychiatric wards and hospitals should do more to screen patients for suicidality and prevent them from harming themselves, the Joint Commission said in a Sentinel Event Alert issued in November. Hospitals have reported 827 inpatient suicides to the commission since 1995, the most frequent sentinel event reported after wrong-site surgery. The commission defines a sentinel event as "an unexpected occurrence involving death or serious physical or psychological injury" in the health care setting. The commission, which accredits more than 18,000 hospitals and other health care organizations, issued an alert on suicides in 1998 but noted in its follow-up alert that nearly a quarter of reported suicides happened outside the behavioral health units of hospitals. Nearly 15% of suicides reported to the commission occurred in medical or surgical units, while 8% happened in emergency departments and about 2.5% occurred in long-term-care hospitals or other settings. "It is evident from the number of incidents reported that general hospitals must take action to prevent patient suicides," said Mark R. Chassin, MD, MPH, president of the commission. The alert notes that there are many long-term risk factors for suicide, such as a family history of suicide, chronic pain, poor prognosis, unemployment and personal relationship problems. Warning signs of an imminent suicide attempt include anxiety, panic, lost interest in treatment or prognosis and refusal to eat, the commission said. Hospitals should screen all patients for suicide risk and depression as part of the inpatient admission process using age-appropriate assessment tools, the alert says. For patients determined to be at higher risk for suicide, hospitals should: The commission already requires hospitals to take suicide prevention measures for patients with emotional or behavioral disorders.

upset for being scolded man tries to kill self, HAL director hangs self

Upset for being scolded, man tries to kill self iin Dombivili. A 32 year old man attempted to kill himself after his father a hotelier scolded him for having an illicit relationship outside his marriage. Nitin Waghe claimed his father ill-treated him by making him do menial tasks in the family owned hotel while others from the family were given due respect and allowances. Nitin was married 4 years ago and has a child. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- HAL director hangs himself at Nandi Hills TNN Oct 12, 2011, 08.00AM IST BANGALORE: The body of a 58-year-old director of Hindustan Aeronautics Ltd, who was also the company's top test pilot, was on Tuesday found hanging from a tree near a temple at the foot of Nandi Hills, about 60km from Bangalore. Although no suicide note was found at the site of death or at Sqn Ldr (Retd) Baldev Singh's Bangalore home, cops, speaking on condition of anonymity, said it was most likely a case of suicide. He had hanged himself with his turban, police said. The former Air Force combat pilot who graduated to a high-profile test pilot and later a honcho with HAL, heading its corporate planning and marketing wing, had left his Old Madras Road home at 8am in his silver-colour Maruti SX-4 driven by his driver Ramesh. He had asked the driver to go towards the international airport. "We reached Devanahalli around 9.30am and Sirji asked me to get down and wait till he returned, saying he had to go and meet a friend. Sirji promised to return within half an hour and drove away," Ramesh told Chikkaballapur police. When Singh didn't return, Ramesh called his mobile and found it switched off. "Immediately, I alerted the HAL office which, in turn, set off a search and alerted the police," he said. Police began tracking calls from his mobile before it was switched off and traced them to a tower at Nandi Hills. "The car was found parked near Shani Mahatma temple, near Mirza Ismail Circle, at the foot of Nandi Hills," a police officer said. His body was found hanging from a tree near the temple at 11.30am. "The place is a small hillock called Brahmagiri. Baldev had used his pagdi (turban) to hang himself," an officer said. Close associates attributed Singh's reported suicide to the work pressure. Singh had spent nearly 38 years of his career flying combat aircraft and testing flying prototypes. He was shifted to his new post less than two months ago. Those who knew Singh said he had resisted becoming a director and his primary love was flying. "Singh was elevated against his wishes. He was happy flying and the sudden shift to a desk job seemed to have disturbed him," a close associate of Singh told TOI. Police sources, however, said that health issues in the family may have driven Singh to commit suicide. As the news of Singh's death reached the Senior Officers' Enclave where he lived, his wife Vibhu Singh fainted and had to be admitted to the Command Hospital . Singh is survived by his wife and sons Mohit Singh, who works in the US, and Nimith Singh, who is in Singapore . The body was brought to his house late night.

Why do men cheat on their wives/partners?

Sorry, darling, the recession made me unfaithful: Men stressed by economic turmoil are more likely to cheat, say scientists By Lauren Paxman Last updated at 11:34 PM on 14th October 2011 Comments (45) Add to My Stories Share Men stressed by their job security and finances during the recession are more likely to cheat on their partners, new research reveals. When men feel threatened, such as during economic turmoil, they go into survival mode, turbocharging their sex drive. This is apparently nature's subliminal way of getting them to spread their seed and thus ensure the survival of the species. Not their fault? Ashton Kutcher and Ryan Giggs have both recently been accused on cheating... but they can't blame the poor state of their finances Not their fault? Ashton Kutcher and Ryan Giggs have both recently been accused on cheating... but they can't blame the poor state of their finances Not their fault? Ashton Kutcher and Ryan Giggs have both recently been accused of cheating... but they can't blame the poor state of their finances US researchers asked some men to think about their own death, which is similar to the feeling of 'low survivability' that many experience during a period of prolonged economic gloom. They asked another group to think about a less serious fear - dental pain, and showed both groups porn pictures afterwards. Results showed than men who'd thought about dying were far more turned-on and had a greater heart rate when looking at the porn than those asked to think about the dentist. More... Maria Fowler 'worked as a £600-an-hour escort' before finding fame on TOWIE Doug Hutchison's teen wife Courtney Stodden banned from Facebook for 'inappropriate sexual conduct' The team, from the University of Kansas, USA, say this is because men respond more strongly to the potential dangers of a recession, losing their job or not being able to put food on the table. Study author Professor Omri Gillath, whose findings appear in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology said: 'We're biologically wired to reproduce, and the environment tells us the best strategy to use to make sure our genes are passed on. 'If you think you might die soon, there's a huge advantage for a man to use short-term mating strategies - to make sure there are a bunch of offspring and hope that some of them survive - but women can't do the same thing. Gillath points out that: 'The ultimate sign of low chances of surviving is death. Survival mechanism? When men feel threatened, such as during economic turmoil, they go into survival mode, turbocharging their sex drive (posed by models) Survival mechanism? When men feel threatened, such as during economic turmoil, they go into survival mode, turbocharging their sex drive (posed by models) 'After threatening them with their own death, we asked them to look at a computer with sexual and nonsexual images, to see if death makes men more interested in sex.' He added: 'When the environment is secure and you have enough food and things are working the way you would like them to, people are more likely to invest in their existing kids and stay with their current partner or prefer long-term mating strategies. 'But if the environment is dangerous and your chances of survival are low - if there is a famine or more enemies - then people will adopt short-term strategies which allow them to reproduce more. The team from the University of Kansas argue that the present financial upheaval creates sends signals to out brain that we have lower chances of survival. Gillath said: 'There's not as much money, we're not sure if we're going to have our jobs, we're not sure we can support our existing kids. 'It's like living on the savannah and discovering you don't have enough fruit and the animals are scarce. In such times, guys might be more inclined to spread their genes and hence be highly prepared for sex.' So if you husband does cheat, don't be mad. He's just doing his bit for the survival of the species. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- What a ridiculous article...so if your man cheats don't get mad, he's doing his bit for the survival of the species, and yet we are told that men who have great access to resources, and are therefore alpha males also cheat because they have lots, and then we are told people cheat for this reason, and that reason. Its just a joke, people cheat because they fancy someone else, and don't love or care enough for their current partner to remain loyal to them. They listen to their loins, and then come out with all manner of excuses to explain away, or even blame the other person for their weakness It doesn't matter if there are good times or bad, if they are stressed or happy, a cheat's a cheat, and a loyal content person is faithfull. Stop writing daft articles, and instead focus on whats makes people selfish so, and so's, and what makes decent people with values the way they are, and how you can make the best of what you've got instead of constantly looking for the next best thing - FusionDancer, Basingstoke, 15/10/2011 Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2049199/Men-stressed-economic-turmoil-likely-cheat.html#ixzz1b3J5DXP0 -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Men like Arnold Schwarzenegger, Tiger Woods, Jesse James and John Edwards had it all: talent, fame, money, and a beautiful family. Yet with everything to lose, they were accused of cheating on their wives. Why would men throw it all away? The answers may surprise you. Here are 9 reasons. Plus, will he cheat? Rate his risk with our quiz... Approximately 40% of men seek sexual satisfaction outside their relationships, estimates Kat Hertlein, Ph.D., professor of human development at the University of Nevada - Las Vegas and a marriage and family therapist. That number hasn’t changed much since 1950, when the famous Kinsey sex study found that 50% of U.S. men cheat at some point in their marriages. Why They Cheat The No.1 reason: Men crave sexual “variety,” according to David Buss, professor of psychology at the University of Texas and author of The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating (BasicBooks). “They’ve evolved the desire to be with different women,” he says. That’s because it’s very simple for men to reproduce (one act of sex versus nine months of pregnancy for women), so to create as many offspring as possible they’re biologically programmed to mate with many women. “The ‘payoff’ in reproductive currencies [kids] of a short-term mating strategy generally has been higher for men than women,” Buss says. So after thousands of generations, “this has forged in the male brain a desire for sexual variety.” Other top reasons men cheat? They’re unhappy with their mates - and extramarital sex is cheaper and easier to get these days, Buss says. And "power wives" beware: Being married to a high-profile guy ups the odds he’ll wander. “Women are attracted to men who have power and status, so public figures usually have plenty of opportunity,” Buss says. Whether your guy is a political animal, an A-list celeb or just a cubicle-mate, his motivation to cheat is the same, according to one relationship expert. “Ninety-nine percent of the time, there’s a simple reason why: boredom,” says Steve Santagati, author of The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date and Mate – and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top (Crown). Whatever the reasons, cheaters give monogamous men (the majority) a bad name. Why They Say They Cheat Here are 9 excuses guys give for doing the extramarital mambo: 1. She ain’t what she used to be. Like Adam, the typical man can’t resist the temptation of riper fruit, especially if the woman in his life has let herself go. “If she got lazy or gained weight or just doesn’t take care of herself, a guy will start looking at other women,” Santagati says. Women who want to keep their men on a short leash need to take a “good, hard look in the mirror,” he adds. And men should do the same. He might be a complete slob and still be demanding perfection from her. “It’s the typical double standard.” For their part, guys should also make an effort to rediscover the spark at home. “Make her feel pretty, even if you’re lying,” he advises. “Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you appreciate it. It will make her feel sexy and she’ll want to make you happy.” That attention can lead to a more satisfying sex life, agrees Sue Johnson, a professor of clinical psychology at the University of Ottawa and author of Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (Little Brown and Company). “All the evidence shows that when [women] feel safe and connected, you’re better at taking care of your partner.” 2. No one loves a ball buster. Perhaps nothing will drive a married man into the arms of another woman faster than a nagging wife. “She’s like a mosquito,” Santagati says. “He doesn’t want to have sex with her; he wants to [swat her away].” The more viable option: hot sex with a more “understanding” woman. Hogwash, says Steven Solomon, Ph.D., author of Intimacy After Infidelity: How to Rebuild & Affair-Proof Your Marriage (New Harbinger). “[A woman] didn't do something that excuses cheating." Whatever the relationship dynamic, it’s not that healthy to begin with if it leads to infidelity, Solomon says. 3. She just doesn’t “get” me. Men who cheat say they don’t feel understood by their mate. But it’s not always the woman. Mostly they’re either angry or afraid to connect. “It’s easier for men to go outside the relationship than work it out with their partner,” says UNLV’s Hertlein. “We see this ‘triangulation’ a lot.” A deep-seated fear of intimacy can be hard for some guys to overcome. And they’re more likely to cheat again, especially if they don’t go to couples therapy, Hertlein says. 4. It’s the thrill. Most guys who have affairs are getting in touch with their inner caveman: They like to play with fire. “It adds a level of danger,” Santagati says, “and danger adds to the excitement.” By keeping surprise and sizzle in your sex life, a woman can keep the home fires burning so hot that her man won’t have any reason to cheat. But that's not the whole story. Solomon says men also cheat because of fear, loneliness or anger. “The betraying partner's failure to deal with these feelings is what causes him to be unfaithful," he says. 5. Blame it on the “hunter.” Often, married men who cheat can’t quite explain their motivation. They just find themselves compelled to bust out of their day-to-day routine in search of something new. It’s a primitive instinct that dates back to their role as hunter and gatherer – only this time, they’re hunting and gathering new women. “Maybe he married too young,” Santagati says, “or he just feels as if he hasn’t seen everything.” Women can protect themselves by getting wise to this behavior early in the relationship – and getting out. Santagati suggests you can find out more about a man’s dating history by watching how he acts in a room full of gorgeous women. If you can’t rein him in when your romance is new, you’ll never control him down the road when your life together is more settled. “The first three months are critical,” he says. 6. Biology, baby. “It’s our biological nature to be with as many females as possible,” Santagati says. “Once we’ve seen a woman naked several times, it becomes commonplace. It doesn’t matter if you’re Jessica Alba or Sienna Miller, we become accustomed to your body and want to experience something different – different lips, different body types. We’re only monogamous because we realize that love and friendship are more important than getting laid.” But Juliet Williams, associate professor of women’s studies at UCLA disagrees. “No matter how stunningly high the number of male cheaters, we know it’s not biological,” she says. “There are still a higher percentage of men who are monogamous.” Whether it’s evolution, biology or simple novelty, infidelity researchers agree that men do seek different sex partners. However, the decision whether to cheat is entirely in a man’s control. “Most men don’t act on those desires because they don’t want to jeopardize social reputations or marriages,” says University of Texas’ Buss. Former President Jimmy Carter, for example, told an interviewer that he had ‘lust in his heart’ but as far as we knew, he never acted on it,” he says. 7. It’s just sex. For most guys, sex and love are two entirely different things. “We really believe, ‘I can still love my wife and want to have sex with other women.’ We separate it in our brains,” Santagati says. That rationale allows guys to cheat guilt-free, with one notable exception: “Any guilt that a man has after sex isn’t about the sex itself, it’s about the consequences,” Santagati says. “Will she be a stalker? Will my wife find out? "If a guy is in a committed, monogamous relationship, he should ask himself one question before he cheats: Is it worth it? He should consider the worst-case scenario, meaning that his wife finds out and is now brokenhearted. Is it worth it?” 8. Not tonight, dear. Let’s face it. Men want more sex than women. So when their partner is tired from wrangling kids all day and unwilling to try new things, even the most loyal hubbies get bored and go looking for nookie. More sexually permissive men who don’t have equally adventurous partners are also more apt to wander, says UNLV’s Hertlein. Their sexual values are just not compatible. 9. Because we can. OK, we’re guys, remember? It’s hard to resist temptation, especially when it’s at our fingertips. Thanks to the Internet, it’s easier for men to cheat anytime, anywhere… while they’re watching TV or on the laptop in bed next to their sleeping wives. We’re not talking about penis and vaginas,” Hertlein says. “Cheating is defined as anything that breaches a relationship contract.” “That includes “sexy communication and flirting that’s kept secret from your partner.” Forgive and Forget? Whether your man is having sex online or in a hotel room, should you take him back? “We think of people who betray us as cads, bad people, immature,” Solomon says. “But most are normal folks who get lost in not taking care of themselves and their marriage.” And if you forgive and forget, could he cheat again? Despite guys’ excuses, the decision to cheat or stay faithful isn’t something women can control. “Even if you’re the worse spouse on Earth, your partner can find better ways to deal with his unhappiness,” Solomon says. “You can't make someone cheat any more than you can make someone drink or abuse you.” Will He Cheat? Rate the Risk It's thought that about 60% of men cheat on their partners - and 70% of wives don't have a clue. 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Van Gogh did not commit suicide?

A new book about the celebrated Dutch painter casts the popular belief that he shot himself in the chest in a field in France into doubt. Van Gogh: The Life, by Steven Naifeh and Gregory White Smith, suggests that the most likely cause of Van Gogh's death is at the hands of a third party, believed to be a local boy. The theory contradicts the accepted version of events, which holds that Van Gogh shot himself in a field, staggering more than a mile back to an inn where he was staying. Before dying 30 hours later, he was asked if he meant to commit suicide, and said: "Yes I believe so". But this does not explain why the easel and brushes that he had taken to the fields with him that day, not to mention a gun, were never found, and nor was a suicide note. The book questions whether the artist, who was known to have spent time in an insane asylum, could have got hold of a gun. Related Articles Van Gogh: Masterpiece a month 01 Aug 2011 Van Gogh returns to Dulwich after 138 years 25 Jul 2011 Van Gogh's yellow sunflowers 'are turning brown' 15 Feb 2011 Why Sunflowers by Van Gogh are losing their shine 14 Feb 2011 While Naifeh and Smith, accept that "no one knows what happened" , they set out an alternative scenario for the events in Auvers, France. They believe that the fatal shot was fired by a 16-year-old boy named Rene Secretan, who was spending the summer at a villa nearby and whose complex relationship with Van Gogh included buying drinks for him and teasing him. The authors claim Van Gogh didn't accuse the boy of shooting him because he welcomed death and didn't want the teenager to be punished. Van Gogh died in 1890 aged 37.

Some parents see young love as mental sickness

9 Oct 2011 Anahita Mukherji MUMBAI: Falling in love outside one's community does not figure anywhere in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Yet, a growing number of parents are sending their children-both adults and adolescents-to psychiatrists in a bid to "cure" them of this "affliction". While the khap panchayats of north India are notorious for executing youngsters who fall in love outside their caste, some metropolitan parents can have their own style of being prejudiced. They don't kill their kids, only beat them up or treat them as if they were mentally ill. Psychiatrists themselves have come under fire from irate parents. When Dr Harish Shetty, president of the Counsellors' Association of India, helped a Muslim girl escape from parents who were preventing her from marrying a Hindu, the girl's mother threatened to kill Shetty. He had to file a police complaint to seek protection. "There are instances when parents have brutally beaten a girl for falling in love outside her community and have even threatened the boy's family with dire consequences if he didn't leave their daughter alone. After the violence, they seek psychiatric help to legitimize their actions," says Shetty. One of the worst instances he dealt with involved a girl from an upper-caste Brahmin household who was branded with iron rods and beaten by her uncles for falling in love outside the community. The parents of a young man working in the infotech industry in London once tried to persuade city psychiatrist Dr Dayal Mirchandani to fly with them to London and hypnotize their son into falling out of love with his foreign girlfriend and returning to India. Another father wanted his daughter locked up in a psychiatric ward for a few months in the hope that her lover would forget about her in that time. Both the girl and her boyfriend were Hindus, but from different parts of the country. Mirchandani recalls a couple who belonged to different religions and faced so much societal pressure that both of them converted to an altogether different religion, becoming Baha'is. Antagonism towards mixed marriages cuts across community lines, with Hindus, Muslims, Parsis and Christians dragging their 'errant' children to counsellors. The angst can be particularly high for Hindu-Muslim relationships. Psychiatrists have also been asked to counsel youngsters who have fallen for a person belonging to a different caste or community within the same religion, or for that matter another denomination of the religion. Psychiatrists say that highly educated parents, who neither physically nor mentally abuse their children, can try to bombard the young with 'logical' reasons for why they should not marry outside the community. They weave in a network of family, friends and neighbours to convince the child. They also want mental health professionals to be part of this network. However, instead of following the parents' instructions to talk youngsters out of their feelings, many psychiatrists say they instead give the children strength to deal with the crises their families have created. "In such situations, people would earlier turn to priests. Now, they are turning to psychiatrists. I look at this as an opportunity to help parents understand their children better," says Shetty. Psychiatrist Dr Anjali Chhabria recently counselled the mother of a girl who had, in the past, been in three relationships with boys from another religion. "The mother felt the religion which the boys belonged to was 'inferior'. She could not understand why her daughter was 'selling herself short' when there were so many boys to choose from within the community," says Chhabria, adding that parents often blame themselves for doing a bad job of bringing up their children. Mirchandani feels that, with increasing globalization, youngsters from different parts of the world get a chance to meet each other. "This weakens the hold that traditional ideologies can have on an individual. With parents unable to understand this, there is a growing disconnect between parents and children." He points to the case of a girl from a small town who married a boy from a different community. The two live in the big city, Mumbai. Every time the girl's parents visit her, the boy moves out of the house. Her parents do not know of his existence. http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/10283711.cms

Aasra-AFSP event-Suicide Survivors Day Nov 19, 2011

Dear Organizers, Thank you for being a part of this 13th annual day along with 300 other cities in 19 different countries. With the addition of Spanish and French subtitles, plus captioning in English, this year’s program will reach more survivors than ever before. While we gently encourage all survivors to participate in this day by attending a conference site in-person, this isn’t always possible, and some survivors may not feel emotionally ready. Please let anyone who can’t come to your conference know about the webcast at www.afsp.org. It can be watched from home, 1-2:30 EST, with a live online chat immediately following. (If you live in a time zone where that won’t work – don’t worry, the webcast is saved online survivors can watch online at anytime afterwards too.) The step-by-step guide to organizing a conference site has detailed information on what to do leading up to International Survivors of Suicide Day at www.afsp.org/survivorconference, but if you have any questions at all, please email or call us. What to do leading up to November 19th: 1. DVD a. You should receive the DVD in the mail between by November 7th. (If you do not receive it by then, email survivingsuicideloss@afsp.org right away. b. Test the DVD as soon as possible, preferably using the same equipment you plan to use on November 19th. The DVD is in NTSC format. (This is the most common format used around the world – so it shouldn’t be a problem.) c. Don’t forget to arrange for external audio, especially if you are using a laptop to project the DVD onto a screen. Laptops have tiny internal speakers that will not be loud enough. For details, see the Technical Information Sheet. 2. MATERIALS Along with the DVD, each Organizer will receive 40 Attendee Evaluations. Please hand out the evaluations at the end of your conference and mail them back to us. We need individual feedback so we can continue to improve this program, and we read each and every evaluation. You can also print these out free of charge. (Do not order materials from the AFSP Store. They will not arrive in time for your conference.) 3. PREPARE FOR THE ‘DAY OF’ AFSP’s free 90-minute DVD provides the main program content for your conference, but many organizers also add sharing sessions, food, healing activities, or speakers. See Ideas for Local Programming for suggestions. Plan to arrive early. Plan to arrive at least 90 minutes before the conference begins to test the DVD and audio-visual equipment. Other volunteers can be asked to arrive at least 1 hour in advance to help set up room(s), post signage, & greet attendees. Finalize plans for greeting attendees. First impressions count. We highly recommend having at least 1 greeter at the door, and 1 greeter who can take down the names of your attendees and hand out materials and optional items like name tags or colored ribbons/beads that signify loss relationship. Create large, clear signage that says “International Survivors of Suicide Day” for outside the building. You may also need additional signage inside the building, especially if you are using multiple rooms. Find graphics here. We are here to help, so please be in touch if you have any questions at all. Thanks, and take good care, Rebecca and Elizabeth Rebecca Thorp, Survivor Initiatives Manager - rthorp@afsp.org or 212-363-3500 x2033. Elizabeth Hish, Survivor Initiatives Assistant – ehish@afsp.org or 212-363-3500 x2035 Remember, our online guide on how to organize a conference site at www.afsp.org/survivorconference contains step-by-step instructions, a PR toolkit, a list of ideas for local programming, graphics, frequently-asked-questions, sample templates (e.g. save the date cards, fliers, day-of-event program, and more) If you require technical assistance, please e-mail afsp@limelightdc.com or call 703-242-4596. If you have other questions about International Survivors of Suicide Day, please email survivingsuicideloss@afsp.org or call 212-363-3500 x2033. We look forward to a successful program. On behalf of survivors of suicide loss from around the world, we thank you very much for your participation. Intl Survivors of Suicide Day Site Registration We welcome site organizers from all over the U.S. and the world. However, if you live in an area that is served by an AFSP Chapter, we encourage you to be in touch with the local AFSP staff and volunteers. Visit www.afsp.org/chapters for contact information. Is there is an AFSP Chapter near you? * No Chapter in my area Name of conference location (for example, Howell City Library) Mum,bai Local Conference Site Address * Help Library, Mumbai CST D.N Road Mumbai, Maharashtra Mumbai India Conference Start Time (Enter your LOCAL time) 3:30:00 PM What time zone are you in? * Indian Standard Time Is there a suggested donation or fee? If yes, give amount. No Name * Johnson Thomas AASRA Website: www.aasra.info Email * aasrahelpline@yahoo.com Phone Number (Include area code) * 91-22-27546669 In order to participate as a local conference site, you must agree to the following conditions: We will preserve the integrity of this annual day by showing the 2011 AFSP International Survivors of Suicide Day DVD/webcast to an audience, uninterrupted and in its entirety, on November 19, 2011. We will not show it to an audience of any size before this date and we will not edit, alter, or change the content in any way. * Yes, we agree to the above conditions. The Primary Site Organizer is AFSP’s main point of contact. AFSP will ship the DVD to this person the week prior to the event. All emails/phone calls/mailings from AFSP will go to this person. * Yes, I understand the above statement. Name of Primary Site Organizer * Mr Johnson Thomas Organization AASRA Primary Organizer's Address * RH2,plot 3, MADHAVI CHS, SECTOR 19A, NERUL EAST, NAVI MUMBAI MUMBAI, MAHARASHTRA 400706 India Primary Organizer's Email * johnsont307@gmail.com Daytime Phone Number (Include area code) * 00-9820466726 Phone Type: * Cell Choose one: * The Primary Conference Site Organizer listed above will also serve as our Technical Organizer.

links to chennai conference photos

The links of all the 3 days Conference Photos are below. Please forward this link to all other delegates who have attended the conference. Shankar Sneha, Chennai https://picasaweb.google.com/107400905199789436228/BIConf2011Day102?authkey=Gv1sRgCP2V7IWQhZvr3wE# https://picasaweb.google.com/107400905199789436228/BIConf2011Day2?authkey=Gv1sRgCO-u49ziwurWXA https://picasaweb.google.com/107400905199789436228/BIConf2011Day3?authkey=Gv1sRgCPXTmO7y3uTH5QE

Suicide Watch

Suicide watch is an intensive monitoring process used to ensure that an individual does not die by suicide. Usually the term is used in reference to inmates in a prison, hospital, psychiatric hospital, or military bases. Individuals are placed on suicide watch when it is believed there is a good chance they will attempt to cause bodily harm to themselves. Contents [hide] 1 Forms 1.1 Periodic suicide watch 1.2 Intense suicide watch 1.3 Video suicide watch 2 Conditions of suicide watch 3 Controversies 4 References [edit] Forms Various forms of suicide watch exist. These generally involve the subject being under continuous or very frequent watch of a guard, such as a prison officer or orderly, who will intervene if they attempt to harm themselves. The main forms are: [edit] Periodic suicide watch Periodic suicide watch, known at many facilities simply as suicide observation or suicide watch, involves the subject being monitored through frequent periodic checks [edit] Intense suicide watch Intense suicide watch or observation, involves the subject being observed continually by a person who may be employed in one of several possible capacities, sitting or standing in direct sight or arm's reach of the subject. [edit] Video suicide watch In some places, video suicide watches are performed, in which the subject receives video monitoring via closed circuit television from a remote area of the facility. [edit] Conditions of suicide watch People under suicide watch are put into an environment where it would be difficult for them to hurt themselves. In many cases, any dangerous items will be removed from the area, such as sharp objects and some furniture, or they may be placed in a special padded cell, which has nothing outcropping from the walls to provide a place for a ligature to be attached, and with only a drain-grill on the floor. They may be stripped of anything with which they might hurt themselves or use as noose, including shoelaces, belts, neckties,[1] bras,[2] socks, suspenders, other clothing, and bed sheets.[2] Such precautions are taken because people have attempted suicide with those items. In extreme cases the person may be undressed entirely. [edit] Controversies Suicide watch regimes, particularly in prisons, have been criticized for being too restrictive and dismissive of privacy, socially functioning as a form of legal torture rather than being in the interest of the detainee.[citation needed] Inmates are often placed naked in suicide cells, which are usually bare concrete, often without bedding (to prevent hanging by using bed sheets), and under frequent or continuous observation by guards. Unsanitary conditions are also common since toilet paper, underwear, and tampons (all potential means of choking) are restricted. Being exposed without any way of covering oneself, coupled with being under constant observation can aggravate mental distress, particular if the inmate has been a victim of sexual abuse in the past. These harsh conditions came to light in 1998 when Elizabeth B., an inmate of Framingham prison in Massachusetts, USA, called a radio talk show to describe how she had been treated while on suicide watch: I was ... put on eyeball status, stripped of belongings, clothing, placed naked in a room with nothing but a plastic mattress on the floor. Watched 24 hours a day by a man or woman. I was on my period but because of my status not allowed to have tampons or underwear. I was very humiliated, degraded. Being on eyeball status with male officers, my depression intensified. I didn't want to be violated any more than I already was, so I put the mattress up against the window. When I did that I was in violation because they couldn't see me. The door was forced open, I was physically restrained in four point restraints - arms, legs spreadeagled, tied to the floor, naked, helmet on head, men and women in the room.[3] [edit] References ^ "'Standing Up to Ezra Pound'", New York Times, September 29, 1991, webpage: NYT-591 ^ a b "NYC Board of Corrections - Rules - Variances", NYC.gov, 2011, webpage: Nrul ^ "Here and Now" program, station WBUR, Boston University, 16 October 1998. Amnesty

repeated threats of suicide is valid grounds for divorce

Suicide threats ground for divorce: SC Dhananjay Mahapatra, TNN | Oct 1, 2011, 02.02AM IST Article Comments (49) Read more:Supreme Court|Repeated threats to commit suicide|Haryana High Court 49 NEW DELHI: Repeated threats to commit suicide is a ground for divorce, the Supreme Court ruled on Friday and dissolved the marriage of a couple from Punjab after the husband proved that he was traumatised by his wife's incessant suicide threats. A bench of Justices P Sathasivam and B S Chauhan said: "Giving repeated threats to commit suicide amounts to cruelty. When such a thing is repeated in the form of sign or gesture, no spouse can live peacefully." The court departed from judiciary's traditionally lenient approach towards an estranged wife mainly because of the glaring facts of mental and physical hardship and humiliation faced by Pankaj Mahajan at the hands of his wife Dimple. The trial court had granted divorce to Mahajan in April 2006, but the Punjab and Haryana High Court by its August 6, 2009 order set aside the divorce decree. Appearing for the husband, senior advocate Nidesh Gupta placed material to prove before the apex court that Dimple used to give repeated threats to commit suicide. On one occasion, she also tried to commit suicide by jumping from the terrace. Accepting his arguments, the bench said cruelty in marriage meant that the treatment meted out by one spouse made the other apprehend danger to his life and limb while living in a conjugal relationship. "The acts of the respondent wife are of such quality or magnitude and consequence as to cause pain, agony and suffering to the appellant husband which amounted to cruelty in matrimonial law," said Justice Sathasivam, writing the judgment for the bench. Making out 12 grounds of cruel behaviour on the wife's part, the bench said: "She caused grave mental cruelty to him and it is not possible for the parties to live with each other, therefore, a decree of divorce deserves to be granted in favour of the husband." The court directed the husband to pay Rs 2 lakhs to the wife and deposit Rs 3 lakhs in the name of the couple's minor daughter, who is living with the mother.

Fatal slip or Suicide? mystery behind RPF constable's death

Fatal slip or suicide? Mystery over RPF constable’s death Cops say Bhagwan Panda fell from Byculla rly hospital; his colleagues believe he jumped Jyoti Shelar Posted On Saturday, October 01, 2011 at 02:07:17 AM An RPF constable, Bhagwan Panda, fell from the second floor of Byculla railway hospital on Wednesday, and died a day later during treatment. Though the police believe this a straightforward case of accidental death — a man slipped and fell — some of his colleagues suspect that he attempted suicide. They claim an allegation of theft levelled against him had pushed him into depression, and this may be the reason behind the step. Panda, who lived in Kurla, was blamed for a theft of goods worth Rs 1 lakh from the Panvel railway station on July 2. A chargesheet was also filed against him. For the past few months, the 41-year-old was under a lot of work-related stress and appeared to be suffering from chronic depression. On Wedne-sday morning, he was admitted to the railway hospital. “He was kept under observation as he had inflicted injuries on himself,” a nurse said. On Wednesday night, he went into a bathroom on the second floor of the hospital, and moments later he was found in a pool of blood on the ground floor. Panda was rushed to KEM Hospital, where he died on Thursday night. Another staff member at the railway hospital said it appeared that he slipped from the bathroom window. “The bathroom door was locked from inside,” he said. Doctors at KEM said that Panda’s pelvic region was severely injured in the fall. “He had serious injuries on parts of the body, too,” a doctor said. Panda’s son, Anand, said that he learned about the incident from his uncle. “I spoke to my father on Wednesday night, and went out for a walk. When I returned, my uncle told me that he had fallen from the bathroom window,” he said. Panda’s colleagues said he went into depression after he was handed the chargesheet over the theft. “He started behaving oddly after facing scrutiny from seniors,” a colleague said. The RPF constable was sent to Solapur for training on September 1. He, however, ran away from the training centre in just a few days, an RPF official said. “He was traced to Barsi recently,” the official said. • Panda became depressed after he was accused of stealing goods from Panvel railway station

Amy winehouse, comments by friends

Amy Winehouse did not care about fame, says Dionne Bromfield Friday, September 30 2011, 15:51 BST 1 By Daniel Sperling, Entertainment Reporter Email this story Bestival 2011 - Rolling Gallery © Bestival 2011/Ian Taylor Dionne Bromfield has declared that the late Amy Winehouse never wanted to be famous. The 15-year-old jazz star insisted that her godmother and mentor intentionally shunned the limelight, as she was more interested in helping Bromfield launch her own career. "If I didn't have Amy I wouldn't be where I am today," she told Look. "Amy never tried to take anything from me. "The only gig she did with me was Strictly Come Dancing. She wanted the spotlight to be on me, she didn't want it on her." Despite being thankful for Winehouse's input, Bromfield said that she would never allow herself to become dependent on drink and drugs like the 'Rehab' star. "I'm a clever girl. I know what's right and what's wrong and I've got my mum keeping a close eye on me," she explained. "She's my biggest supporter and there with a pin to pop the balloon if it's getting too big." Bromfield revealed in August that she would like to record a tribute album for Winehouse. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Digital Spy Home Headlines Forums Video Blogs Play & Win Showbiz Music Movies TV Soaps Reality TV US TV Cult Gaming Comics Bollywood Odd Media Tech News Celebrities Photos 10 Things DS Icons Celebrity Birthdays Showbiz Forum Home > Showbiz > Amy Winehouse 1983 - 2011 > News Monday, October 3, 2011 Showbiz Compcov Amy Winehouse 1983-2011 Amy Winehouse knew she was about to die, says Tony Bennett Friday, September 30 2011, 21:22 BST 10 By Daniel Sperling, Entertainment Reporter Email this story Amy Winehouse in the studio with Tony Bennett Tony Bennett has claimed that Amy Winehouse knew her body was "in a lot of trouble" before her death. The 85-year-old collaborated with the 'Love Is A Losing Game' singer on the track 'Body & Soul', which featured on his Duets II album and would prove to be Winehouse's last recording before her passing in July. Speaking to The Daily Show, Bennett claimed that Winehouse had accepted she would not be able to undo the damage of her drink and drug addictions. "She knew that she was in a lot of trouble, that she wasn't gonna live. It wasn't drugs, it was alcohol till the end," he said. Bennett, who previously described Winehouse as "one of the great jazz" stars, added: "She was the only singer that really sang what I call the right way." Winehouse's father Mitch said earlier this month that the 27-year-old was responsible for her own death, as she did not properly listen to health care professionals before trying to detox herself. > Tony Bennett becomes oldest living artist on Billboard Hot 100 Watch Tony Bennett and Amy Winehouse duet on 'Body & Soul' below: ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Dionne Bromfield: 'I still can't believe Amy Winehouse death' Tuesday, August 9 2011, 15:21 BST 5 By Daniel Sperling, Entertainment Reporter Email this story Amy Winehouse with her Goddaughter Dionne Bromfield. © WENN / WENN.com Dionne Bromfield has revealed that she has not yet accepted the death of her godmother and mentor Amy Winehouse last month. The 15-year-old jazz star found fame under the guidance of Winehouse's record label and the 'Back To Black' singer made her final public appearance at one of her gigs. Bromfield told BBC Radio 1's Breakfast Show: "I still don't believe it, it's not sunk in. At Amy's funeral it hit me hard. But now I hear about her a lot, you see pictures of her, she's on the radio, so it's like she's there, but you can't physically see or feel her. "The last time I saw her she was fine. I think that was the best time I've ever seen her... It's such a shame to know she was at her best moment and three days later she was gone." Bromfield also opened up about the first time she heard of Winehouse's death, minutes before she was due to begin a show in Cardiff. "No-one wanted to believe it. The whole atmosphere went from being happy to everyone just quiet," she recalled. "You think it's just some sick rumour, you're waiting for someone to say it's not true. "People were saying, 'Don't do it, if you don't want to do it', no-one was pressurising me, but I knew Amy would want me to do it, she was one of my biggest fans. I didn't want to be sitting there crying. I thought, 'Amy loved to see me perform, do it for Amy'." Bromfield paid tribute to Winehouse during the Big Chill festival on Saturday, where she sang an emotional cover of the 27-year-old's song 'Love Is A Losing Game'. Watch Amy Winehouse and Dionne Bromfield sing 'Love Is A Losing Game' below: