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Sunday, May 24, 2009
GOOD AND BAD....BUT NOT SO UGLY....
I would strongly recommend the place to anyone who loves good non-veg food.They serve excellent Maska pulao, Mutton pulav, Haleem, Paya soup, Tandoori chicken,and my favourite Kheema pav, its wonderful comfort food that one longs to have on vacation. and now YOU know where to go.
Everything was alright till today.
Sometimes one gets stressed when some people call and invite themselves to your home.I happened to experience some of that stress today afternoon...I got a call and my whole evening was spoilt in anticipation of what will happen whn these people will arrive. Its killing I say!I try my best not get so affected but I think Ive not been successful.The arguements, the silly ego fights...some relationships are so burdensome.Im weak, I cant seem to tell them off! I compromise, I smile, I act as if its ok that they have screwed up my whole sunday evening...I console myself that it happens only once or twice a year,and life is about compromises....isnt it???
I Dream of Jinnie!
We all dream of that "Somebody" in our lives.
Dated 16th May'09 team of Aasra visited Prithvi, Juhu to see a play called "The Day I Met the Prince". I appreciate the actors for their presention skills and ofcource the team for their fruitful efforts of passing a wonderful message to its audience.
The play starts with a small little gal expressing her learning from nature in the form of pictures. The girl loves to draw but her pictures fail to express its clarity and hence, they are not appreciated and always laughed upon by her elders and teacher as well. Poor little girl feels rejected. She feels there is no one on the earth who can understand her and her drawings. She decides to get vanished from earth and go away from the ruthless world.
She reaches a top of a tower where she is crying to herself before she die. But, while she was on the top of the building making up her mind to end her life she meet a Prince. The prince has come from a different planet in search of a solution to his Worry. The prince is worried and distressed. The prince says, I have grown a beautiful rose on my planet and I have nurtured my rose with all my love and affection and it is the beautiful creation on my planet. But, the problem is I also have a Goat. Now, my worry is, How do I protect my Rose from being eaten up by the Goat. The girl suggests, why don't you tie the goat or you fence the Rose. But the Prince is not happy with any of the solutions the girl offered. He wants to see the Rose and the Goat free in nature. So, in order to find remedy to their problem they visit the expertise on earth. They visit the Geogropher and the Scientist in search of solution. But to their dissappointment none of them could offer a convincing solution.
The prince is disstressed and out of disppointment he plea the audience for solution. We suggested,
1. Offer another rose to the goat so he wont eat your Rose.
2. Eat the Goat so there is no goat to eat the rose.
3. Grow more roses.
But, the prince is not happy with any of the solutions. Finally the Gardner says to the prince "My child you do not have to worry for the Rose. Coz, the rose has got thorns to protect himself" and then the prince realise that worry was never a worry, it never existed. And he happily goes back to his planet with a light heart and an enlightment.
Like the prince we all worry about all the things in our life. We must understand that God is a thoughtful creater. All our worries are already been taken care of by him. We only need to have patience to understand him.
So guys unlike the prince we need not worry about the issues in our lives and distress ourselves. But yes we will definately make efforts to fix the problem and the rest will be left in peace for it to be resolved on its right predecided time.
The Jinnie of our life is all around we only need to keep our eyes and ears wide open to trace him!
Monday, May 11, 2009
NANO! a MAJOR stress to urban life.
Nano has bought smile to many faces in
Nano car was a challenge for Tata but, the car could have been a real successful challenge if the 1 lakh car challenge would have been accompanied by the challenge to get the commuting system, traffic system and traveling rules in place by making them more organized. It’s like, the way the half done work is dangerous and non-useful similarly, Nano will add stress to the city with its half cooked plan on the road.
Before granting permission for the launch of Nano the authorities should have done proper survey to find out major cities suffering traffic problems and prohibiting the sale of Nano in those cities.
Nano on the road in urban would have been a great idea if we have had an organized commuting system, better roads, better commuting rules. The govt. should encourage car pooling to reduce traffic and occupancy of road. It feels so irritable to see one person traveling in a car and occupying such big place on the road which can be well organized with the help proper imposition of traffic and commuting rules.
Nano is a suitable car to run in rural where you have if not good at least empty roads to travel. Nano on the road will only aggravate traffic problems leading to stress and frustration and many more other health problems followed by it.
The article wouldn’t be complete if I do not mention the pollution problems that Nano will add on its entry in metros.
The company should have scrutinized the area for launch rather than just dumping the car in the open market to be sold. The Nano car is not a facility in urban it’s a sophisticated form of stress bought to the mankind.
Come on guys lets welcome the stress with a warm hearts and lets enjoy the STRESS!
Cheers!!
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Ragging the bane of every educational institute
Constant Sunlight behind Greenland Suicides?/Seasonal affective Disorder
This is very interesting data for those having an interest in suicidology. It was found that there was a concentration of suicides in the summer months and that the seqasonal effect was specifically more in the north of the country- an area where the sun doesn't set between the end of april and the end of august. In terms of seasonal light variation Greenland is the most extreme human habitat.Greenland is also reckoned to have the highest suicide rate in the world. The research document also records that suicides were almost exclusively violent and increased during periods of constant day. In the north of the country 82% of suicides occurred during daylight months (including astronomical twilight). Most suciides occurred in young men, 95% of the suicides occurred by using violent means like shooting, hanging and jumping from heights. The researchers speculated that light-generated imbalances in the turnover of neurotransmitter serotonin could lead to increased impulsiveness, which in combination with lack of sleep could explain the increased rate of suicides in the summer months in Greenland.
Sounds like seasonal affective disorder can lead to greater propensity to suicide. There are people who get affected by sunmmers, some by winters and some even by the monsoons. Seasons always have had a kind of affect(negative and positive) on the human psyche.People who call us also tell us the same. Of course almost everyone who calls a suicide helpline confesses to being affected by seasonal changes. In the monsoon the head feels heavy, mood is low and there's general malaise and disinterest.In the summer the feeling is of ennervation and lack of energy while in the winter feeling is of gloom and doom. A fragile mind finds it difficult to cope with these pervasive and invasive affectations and this leads to a fracture in the cope-ability of the person!
Saturday, May 9, 2009
an appeal!
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
personally, I agreee that life is about simple pleasures. yes! food, natural sunshine,I love snow too and the sand and all things natural and rural ( I really dont know about love! I know attraction ..does it count???) Ive misunderstood the term many times... its a verb people say ..Ive yet to find out....
anyway, I think that the Buddha came back from his adventures in the jungle for the precise reason that he didnt find enlightment there!
He tried his best, but he found it in the society, people helped him attain what he was looking for...and then he came out with his Madhyamarga..the Middlepath...( extremities of any kind is harmful !) hmmmm!
This is what we have to find out for ourselves..through the hard way ...( I found out I cant drink more than two pegs of vodka,I tend to become emotional and start talking crap...)
so thats life....keep learning and in the process LIVE and be HAPPY... u can be happy if and only if you allow yourself to be in that state...dont take life so seriously yaar!
And avoid the disease called `WHAT WILL PEOPLE SAY`....
Monday, May 4, 2009
Happiness or what?????
Prerna Gupta says'
Is happiness really an attainable state for the human mind? I recently read an article in the NYTimes, titled Enlightenment Therapy, about a professor who gave up a tenured position and decided to devote his life to meditation. He spent years practicing and teaching Zen meditation, yet he was never able to attain that elusive state of infinite happiness the eastern religions promise as the reward for such devotion. When Zen meditation failed, he turned to anti-depressants and psycho-therapy, but nothing seemed to work. And now he finds himself visiting a therapist like a regular white-collar American. He is doomed, it seems, to that familiar state of discontentment, loneliness and depression many of us suffer throughout our lives.
How many of us promise ourselves that we'll be happy just as soon as we achieve this or that success and get this or that material possession? And for how many years have we been convincing ourselves that the watering hole is just on the other side of that sand dune? The eastern ascetics will tell us that we need only to detach ourselves from these fleeting pleasures in order to attain happiness. Yet I find it hard to believe that these lonely old men who have spent years in silent isolation are truly happy. On the contrary, many of them seem as consumed by the search for wealth and power as the most "attached" among us. The search for happiness through renunciation of everything human seems misguided somehow; happiness is after all a human condition, created by human impulses in a human brain. Everyone is different, but companionship is a pretty basic requirement for most humans to be happy.
But if there is no happiness to be found through participation in society, and none found through asceticism...then where the hell is it? Perhaps happiness does not exist at all, but is simply a mirage we create for ourselves so we can always strive for more. It is obvious why we might have evolved the propensity to seek happiness, as this unending desire incentivizes us to keep working for more money / status / progress, increasing our chances of survival as a species. Yet by that token it would seem maladaptive to ever actually attain a state of constant happiness, at least while one is capable of being a productive member of society. In that case maybe we should abandon the search for happiness altogether, and just resign ourselves to a life fraught with duality.
It might be true, but I just can't accept it. I have to believe that I am capable of attaining infinite bliss, of sustaining that amazing sensation of ecstasy I glimpse every now and again while wrapped in my lovers arms or surfing a perfect wave in the pacific ocean. I must believe happiness is real, and that I am in fact getting closer to enlightenment every day of my life. If not, then what's the point of it all? What is there to live if not for eternal sunshine? Or, perhaps, if not for the search of it.
Let the businessman seek it in money, the celebrity in fame and the swami in solitude. But I will not seek it thus. For I have found my happiness in simple pleasures and need now only to find a means of sustaining my immersion in those. I live for love, food, music and natural sunshine.