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Coping with the stress of Exam results(headsUp) AASRA
Waiting for exam results can be a scary time; it's like you have an appointment with fear! As the hype starts to ratchet up, your stomach may very well start to churn. Of course this is normal. It is to be expected that you feel stressed, nervous, panicky and anxious. You may not even realise that you are feeling the effects of stress. Have a look around this section of the site to see how to recognise and manage stress. If you feel like you would like to talk to someone send us a free text and we'll text you back a list of helplines and support services. Just call AASRA 91-22-27546669
Good luck with your exam results from all at AASRA!
What causes stress around exam results time?
What you can do before the exam results?
How to manage stress after you get your exam results
Waiting for exam results can be a scary time; it's like you have an appointment with fear! As the hype starts to ratchet up, your stomach may very well start to churn. Of course this is normal. It is to be expected that you feel stressed, nervous, panicky and anxious. You may not even realise that you are feeling the effects of stress. The stress of waiting for exam results could mean that you are experiencing the following:
Difficulty in concentrating
Headaches, abdominal pain, tightness in your chest, pounding heart or breathing difficulties
Difficulty in getting to sleep at night
Abnormal eating habits – eating more than usual or having no appetite for food
Loss of sense of humour and a feeling that things are out of proportion
Increased intake of coffee
Increase in number of cigarettes smoked
Withdrawal from friends and social situations
Lack of motivation
Overly tired despite adequate sleep
For more information on stress, check out the Understanding Stress fact sheet click here.
What causes stress around exam results time?
Apart from the obvious fear of receiving results that are not what you expected, a lot of other factors are at play during this time. These include:
Wanting to obtain results that reflect the work you put into your studies
Pressure to fulfil the expectations of others
The need to obtain results to progress to the next step in your career, the course, university or area of work of your choice
The fact that these exams results may signify a new phase in your life. You may be leaving home, leaving your friends, leaving the country or changing your normal routine
The whole uncertainty of your decisions – have you chosen the right course for you, have you made the right decision?
Wanting to get results similar to your friends and peers
Fear of failure
What you can do before the exam results?
Look after yourself: In the days leading up to the exam results try to allocate some time for relaxation. This is really important as we often are too busy or too worked-up to think about taking a certain amount of time to just do something that relaxes you. This could include a long soak in a bubble bath, a walk by the beach, time spent on your Xbox or Playstation or just listening to your favourite music. It will be different for everyone and that's ok as long as you know what relaxes you and you put the time aside for that activity. For information on quick stress relief techniques, go to the Immediate Stress Reduction Techniques fact sheet and theRelaxation fact sheet
Exercise: Exercise is an excellent way of dealing with stress and pressure. You may find it difficult to start exercising but hormones such as endorphins released during exercise help you feel better about yourself and the challenges you face.
Talk to your friends: Consider talking to your friends who no doubt are going through similar feelings as you.
Acknowledge your feelings: During this time you may feel anxious, nervous, excited, hopeless, nauseous or down. It's important that you recognise how you are feeling and express those feelings. If you feel you don't want to talk to someone about them, consider keeping a journal or expressing it through art. Check out our Art from the Heart section that allows you to express your feelings anonymously through art. http://www.headsup.ie/heart/
Realise your own expectations: Take time to realistically consider your expectations for your exam results. Find out what results you would be happy with based on your own targets and not on the expectations of others. What subjects are you good at? What results are you hoping for in that subject? What subjects are you not so strong at? And what results would you be happy with in these subjects? Remember everyone has strengths and weaknesses.
Address the unrealistic expectations of others: If you feel your stress is the result of the unrealistic expectations of others, sit them down and talk to them about what you feel is realistic and why. Dealing with the unrealistic expectations of others can be very difficult to cope with. Once this expectation is discussed and managed properly, it can be a huge relief. Assertiveness can be a very helpful skill in getting your point across; to learn about assertiveness skills, check out the Assertiveness module in the Self Help section.
Consult a GP: If you feel like the stress you are experiencing is impacting negatively on your daily life and normal activities, consult a GP for further advice and treatment.
How to manage stress after you get your exam results
Once you get your exam results, the immediate stress may be reduced. Congratulations! The wait is over and now you can consider your next step. Some people will be celebrating; others may be a bit disappointed but it is important to consider the following:
After you receive your exams results, trust yourself and have the confidence to know you did your best: It can be easy to look back over your study time and think 'I could have done more' but this is not a very useful thing to do. Retrospective thinking may not always be realistic thinking.
One person's disappointment is another person's success: Remember that everyone has different expectations of themselves and goals in life. Be aware of this during the exam results period.
Put your results into perspective: Whether you have achieved the results you expected or not, remember that exams are stepping stones to something bigger. Exams are not always goals in themselves; they can be a means to a goal. Stepping stones can be of different sizes and sometimes may be difficult but the important thing is for them to be used productively to reach where you want to be. Marks should not be the goal; they only help you reach the next class or a level closer to your desired career. If you are disappointed about your results, your goal does not need to change but how you reach that goal may be different. Check out the goal setting fact sheet in the well-being section. http://www.headsup.ie/goalsetting.php
Learn to disassociate your performances from who you are: Everyone is made up of a lot of abilities and skills. Exams judge skills and knowledge; they are not a judgement about a person or a reflection of a person's self-worth. Remember this, it is important. If you find yourself thinking negatively recently, check out the Noticing Unhelpful Thinking and Changing Unhelpful Thinking modules in the Self Help section. http://www.headsup.ie/selfhelp/index.php
Treat yourself: The exam results are a stressful time and the hours of work put into achieving them deserves a reward. Whether you are delighted or disappointed with your results, allow yourself the time to treat yourself. If big celebrations are planned, be careful around your alcohol intake. Visit www.drinkaware.ie for more information.
Explore your options for the future: Now that you have your exam results, take the time to consider your options. Check out the goal-planning fact sheet in the Well-being section. http://www.headsup.ie/goalsetting.php
Queries about results: If you have any queries in relation to your results, the National Parents Council (Post-Primary) provides a free helpline that provides advice and guidance to students. The helpline can be accessed on 1800 265 165 from Wednesday 17th and Thursday 18th August from 8am until 7pm. The helpline is also available following the issue of the CAO offers on Monday 22nd and Tuesday 23rd August from 8am until 7pm.
Outside Help: If you are feeling down as a result of your exam results and would like to talk to someone in confidence, Call AASRA 91-22-27546669.
Frequently Asked Questions
How can I prepare mentally for receiving my Leaving Cert results?
Looking after your general mental health is something we should always do but especially around stressful periods. There are a lot of things you can do to prepare mentally for your leaving cert results. Set aside relaxation time and include rest in your daily schedule. Do not allow other obligations to take up time set aside for relaxation. This is your time to take a break from all responsibilities and to recharge your batteries.
Connect with others. Spend time with positive people who enhance your life. A strong support system will buffer you from the negative effects of stress.
Do something you enjoy every day. Make time for leisure activities that bring you joy, whether it be exercising, listening to music or dancing or any of the suggestions listed above.
Keep your sense of humour. This includes the ability to laugh at yourself. The act of laughing helps your body fight stress in a number of ways.
Learn the relaxation response
You can control your stress levels with relaxation techniques that evoke the body's relaxation response, a state of restfulness that is the opposite of the stress response. Regularly practicing these techniques will build your physical and emotional resilience. To learn more about relaxation techniques that reduce stress, go to the Relaxation Practices that Reduce Stress fact sheet. \
Adopt a healthy lifestyle
You can increase your resistance to stress by strengthening your physical health. The following can help with strengthening your physical health:
Exercise regularly. Physical activity plays a key role in reducing and preventing the effects of stress. Make time for at least 30 minutes of exercise, three times per week. Nothing beats aerobic exercise for releasing pent-up stress and tension.
Eat a healthy diet. Well-nourished bodies are better prepared to cope with stress, so be mindful of what you eat. Start your day right with breakfast, and keep your energy up and your mind clear with balanced, nutritious meals throughout the day.
Reduce caffeine and sugar. The temporary "highs" caffeine and sugar provide often end with a crash in mood and energy. By reducing the amount of coffee, soft drinks, chocolate, and sugar snacks in your diet, you will feel more relaxed and you will sleep better.
Avoid alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs. Self-medicating with alcohol or drugs may provide an easy escape from stress, but the relief is only temporary. Don't avoid or mask the issue at hand; deal with problems head on and with a clear mind.
Get enough sleep. Adequate sleep fuels your mind, as well as your body. Feeling tired will increase your stress because it may cause you to think irrationally.
How can I relieve the stress of exams results day?
In the build-up to receiving your Leaving Cert results there are many things you can do to ensure that you are as stress-free as possible. If you have been keeping a stress diary, you will know what type of things stresses you out, how you react to stress and how to best deal with stress.
If you have not been keeping a stress diary, you can still benefit from stress relief techniques. There are many healthy ways to manage and cope with stress. You can either change the situation or change your reaction. When deciding which option to choose, it's helpful to think of the four As: Avoid, Alter, Adapt, or Accept.
Avoid the stressor, which means changing the situation
Alter the stressor, which means changing certain aspects of the stressor
Adapt to the stressor, which means changing your reaction to the stressor
Accept the stressor, which means accepting the stressful issue in your life and learning from it.
You cannot change the fact that the Leaving Cert results will arrive but you can alter the stressor, adapt the stressor or accept the stressor. For example, if the idea of going into the school to collect your results, meet your teachers and friends causes you stress then get your results online or via telephone.
In order to adapt the stressor you could adapt how you think about the Leaving Cert results. Instead of seeing them as a major milestone, view them as one step to where you want to be in your future life and career.
In order to accept the stressor, just acknowledge that getting exams results is a stressful time but something that a lot of people go through in order to get to the next point in their lives.
Suppose all my friends do better than me, how can I show that I am happy for them if I'm disappointed with my results?
It can be difficult experiencing mixed emotions. On one hand you are disappointed with your own results but happy for your friends. Remember these people are your friends. Just tell them how you feel. Honest conversations between friends are what keep friendships alive. Don't let this situation be any different from others.
Are there any physical signs to show that I'm stressed? How do I deal with these?
There are some physical signs that may indicate that you are stressed. These include some of the following:
Aches and pains
Diarrhoea or constipation
Chest pain, rapid heartbeat, tightness in chest
Loss of sex drive
These physical symptoms of stress can be alleviated by taking time out to relax and distress. For tips on quick stress relief techniques click here.
If these physical symptoms are persistent, consult your GP.
What are the emotional symptoms that indicate I'm stressed? How do I deal with these?
Some of the emotional symptoms of stress include the following:
Irritability or short temper
Agitation, inability to relax
Sense of loneliness and isolation
Depression or general unhappiness
In order to deal with these symptoms, take some time to relax and look after yourself. Do something you enjoy and that takes your mind off all your worries. Talk to someone you can trust and tell them exactly how you are feeling. If you would prefer to talk to someone you do not know, free text HEADSUP to 50424 for a list of support organisations.
Do you have any tips for relaxing in advance of the results?
As the day of the result approaches, ensure you look after your mental health. Adapting a positive attitude is very helpful. Check out the Noticing Unhelpful Thinking and Changing Unhelpful Thinking modules in the Self Help section.
Make some time for relaxation. Some healthy ways to relax could include some of the following:
Go for a walk
Spend time in nature
Call a good friend
Sweat out tension with a good workout
Write in your diary
Take a long bath
Light scented candles
Savour a warm cup of coffee or tea
Get a massage
Curl up with a good book
Listen to music
Watch a comedy
Find out what relaxation techniques work for you and include them in your daily routine. Also make time for friends or family members that are supportive and positive.
How can I support a friend who is stressed?
Stress is not something we can solve for our friends but we can support them by:
Being there to listen to their problems and worries
Accepting that their moodiness is not designed to hurt you; your friend may not even know that they are being moody
Encouraging them to take time out with you to do something fun, be that going out, shopping, exercising or just chatting
Sharing any stress management tips that you find useful
Sharing any relaxation techniques that you find helpful
If you feel overwhelmed and would like to speak to someone, or if you would like to speak to someone about other difficulties that may be affecting you, call AASRA 91-22-27546669 for support.