They say that a body is made of 5 elements called Earth, Water, Fire, Air and Ether. It’s the outside shell and the skeleton of the person which is made out of these 5 nature elements. The liveliness in a person comes with filled in different emotions in an individual. And the emotions are shaped by different scenarios that one comes across in his/her life. Response of two different people can differ for a particular situation depending upon how do they adapt themselves to a situation or get themselves acquainted with the situation.
With our age we encounter numerous things; living, non living. We learn what is happiness, unhappiness, betrayal, pleasure, care, love hate…. So many to mention. One is helped to go through and understand these personality traits by the way the person is brought up called as Parenting of a child which is considered of significant importance up to the age of 16 years from the birth. During this period the kid is always under the shelter of his/her parents and depends mostly upon them for the learnedness and gaining the understanding of the things that they come across. Later when the child is given freedom to explore the outside world, it’s called Self Grooming coz he/she decides their own way to learn the things.
Imagine if some parents does wrong parenting and the child is forgotten to be taken out of the shell he was born in. The way the child’s eyes will hurt with the sudden exposure to sunlight similarly, his self esteem will also hurt with the sudden exposure to the demanding ruthless world. I have come across one gal who was not taught how important it is to be self dependant, she was not taught how important it is to take her own decisions, she was not taught the importance of communication. It hurt me to learn that the gal never made any frens in her school. It hurt me to learn that the gal could not open herself to express her true feelings to anyone not even to her family. She limited her world to her family. Now with her age when she is expected to expand her wings and enjoy the world she finds all strange and alien faces around and goes dipper into her shell.
The learning that can be gained out of the case is, along with the basic responsibility of providing education, clothing, and shelter to the kid parents play a very important role in grooming the child. They are responsible to expose the child to the outside which would help them eventually shine the kid’s personality.
When a kid is exposed to the outside world he/she encounters so many emotions which help the individual to develop right attitude. Understand different views of different people. Which includes encounter with emotions like, acceptance, appreciation, rejection, love, care, hate, like, dislike, passion, possessiveness, protectiveness, obsession, stubbornness and many more to mention. World is a best teacher by itself and every parents should give an opportunity to their child to get learned from it.
Please make an attempt to express your views as it will help us only to help the gal. According to you how do you think the gal would be helped??
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The Best thing is to Interact with the outside wotld so that one can get to learn new things, explore many things and then share it with Parents and Family which in return will fetch in more ideas into ones mind and then it will finally result in good response to situations in the future...
Dear chiba,
I apprciate your response and m totally in agreement with you. the victim needs to explore the ouside the world to charge the confidence in herself and m quite sure once she does that she would have many vishnu like frens in her life.
Shree;
Nice to see you posting...and I agree with you that, parents are our first teacher. parenting is a skill. And it is a known fact that many parents do not possess that skill and make mistakes. Maybe they are brought up in that manner or whatevr maybe the reason. Most problems faced by human biengs are mental in nature....here the girl has a good education, home, good values, but she has no social skills. Without that its difficult to sustain in this world.
The only thing that we can do is listen to her. Im sure J is doing a good job and there is a marked difference.Earlier she refused to go to work, now she does and is trying to converse with people like you and me. If she continues like ths she will sure be on the road to recovery.
I would like to add that it would be better if we did not call the person involved as victim..rather a caller or `x'.
well yes u are right that parenting is very much imp and i feel that a good friend could try and bring her out of this state of her by bring in her self-confidence and making here know that she is wanted and loved. could gradually bring her out. and even speaking to the parents and family inorder to help her out.
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