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Thursday, April 23, 2009

COMMUNICATION!

H: Husband W: Wife

Scenario 1    Family: Happy

H: I think you have added excess salt to the vegetable.

W: Have I? Am so sorry I could not concentrate full heartedly in cooking.

H: What happened? Is all well?

W: I had real bad and demanding day in the office today.

H: Any major problem?

W: Our department head has come down to our office from his London based office and his meetings are really grilling. So whole day we were tied up with presenting our team progress and digging historic issues. Two more days he is scheduled to stay in Mumbai. So another two days of meetings with him. So I was just lost in the thoughts and was thinking of tomorrows meeting.

H: Its ok chill! Don’t you worry! If you are sure about your work just present it confidently without any hesitation or unnecessary worries. And for now we can squeeze little lemon to the vegetable to reduce the taste of salt in vegetable. Wats say?

W: Sure darling! It feels so great to even share my day’s experience with you. And thanks a lot for patiently hearing me out.

Scenario 1    Family: UnHappy

H: What a horrible mess you have made out of this vegetable.

W: What happened? Is anything wrong with my cooking?

H: Were you in hurry to finish the salt jar?

W: Oh! have I added excess salt in vegetable? Am so sorry! I could not concentrate full heartedly in cooking. I had real bad and demanding day in the office today.

H: You please maintain your family life and professional life separate. Whatever problems you face in the office let them be in the office itself once you cross your office gate in the evening.

W: Am so sorry darling! Let me add some lemon to it to set the vegetable taste right.

H: leave it! I have lost my appetite also now.

            The above illustration is an example of how a good listener can lead to a good communication helping deal with stress, and similarly how does lack of communication entangles too many issues creating complications and lead to an over burden of stress.

Wife in the first case is relived for time being from her office stress and is able to concentrate on her family. Five minutes of her husband’s patience has helped her to be relived from stress. Whereas, in the second case the wife’s worries are multiplied coz, now along with her office worries she has an upset husband to handle.

In today’s demanding world communicating ones mind has become an essence of routine. When you speak your mind you open avenues for opinion, suggestion, solution, appreciation, guidance and many more. And all this helps one to lessen the stress.

Stress is a singular form of Depression. Lack of communication multiplies stress and leads to Depression. And communication helps in deducting stress out of life as it occurs.

 

5 comments:

VISHAL mestry said...

really very nice......
and thanx please me to opportunity to read.......u going too gr8.........perfecto......
keep it up.COMMUNICATIONS.....

reena said...

Shree,nice one there....its so true that a little patience and willingness to listen helps to maintain good relationships. And it also helps in avoiding stress.Everyone is stressed out and to make that effort is also quite a mammoth task.

Unknown said...

well writen keep it up. good communication does seem to lack in many relationship.

Shree said...

Dear all thanx a ton for appreciating the blog. it was attempt to illustrate the effect of and lack of communication under similar circumstances.
It is to understand that good listening capability helps good communication. It gives the other person felling of being heard and empathized.

Paargya.... said...

Hi Shree, its indeed a good article.
Rightly said "Good listening capability helps good communication".Can you illustrate on the scenarios where both Husband and Wife had terrible day in office.Both have excellent communication.Does it mean both are understanding.A person should have understanding about life i.e what are things which causes problems in life.If one is loosing on temper the other should not loose it temper.Stay calm try to be in passive mode and make him/her calm by caring him/her.