The blame game and accepting responsibility

The Blame Game and Accepting Responsibilty

Who or What is causing your problems?

When people fail, they often blame someone else for their failure. People
blame others when they do poorly at work. Blame is also used to justify
personal problems.

When you blame someone or something else, you actually make yourself weak
and ineffective. You make yourself "effect" instead of being the "cause" of
the situation. You give power to the person or thing you blame.

"Blaming something else makes that something else cause; and as that cause
takes on power, the individual in the same act loses control and becomes
effect."

For example, you lost a business contract and you blame your assistant. You
are making your assistant more powerful than you. You might say, "My
assistant messed up the appointment, "which is just another way of saying,
"My assistant determines if I succeed or fail in keeping an appointment."

If you take responsibility, you would say, "I need to train my assistant so
he doesn't make mistakes".

As another example, you might blame someone’s behavior for your stress and
anxiety. This makes that person behavior responsible for your feelings. If
you say, "That person ruined my mood," you are actually saying, "That person
is so powerful that he can control my emotions."

If you wish to succeed in life, you have to end the blame game and accept
responsibility for yourself. You only get ahead when you become "cause" over
the situation and not the “effect".
best wishes and have a great time,