TOLERANCE IS RESISTANCE TO LOVE

One of the traps that’s easy to fall into is filling your life with too many incompatibilities — people, places, objects, circumstances, and activities that just don’t mesh with the person you are on the inside.

When your external reality is out of sync with your inner self, your inner self will resist it. This creates the feeling of wanting to escape your circumstances. You may feel powerless to make big changes, but deep down you’ll still sense a strong desire to “get out” and leave parts of your reality behind. You’ll fantasize about quitting your job, moving out, or ending a relationship.

It’s easy to lose years of your life while surrounded by incompatible energies. This problem is so common that some people just consider it normal. They figure it’s normal to dread going to work or to feel disconnected from the people around them. This may be common, but it certainly isn’t a healthy situation.

When you look at the different parts of your life — your career, health, relationships, spiritual practice, daily habits, and finances — and ask, “Is this really me?” do you hear some no’s? How long have you been tolerating these incompatibilities? Why don’t you simply kick them out of your life, so you can replace them with something more compatible?

Some people think it’s a good thing to tolerate the parts of life they don’t like. That’s dumb. Tolerance isn’t acceptance. Tolerance is resistance. To be more specific, tolerance is resistance to love.

When you fill your life with energies you must tolerate, you prevent yourself from attracting what you really want. The more incompatibilities you tolerate in your life, the fewer compatibilities you’ll be able to attract and enjoy. Keep this up for a few years, and you’ll be drowning in a life that feels totally wrong for you.

What bothers you about your life? What are you tolerating right now? I’d like to challenge you to stop tolerating your life. Either fully accept it, and love it as it is. Or kick out the incompatible parts to create the space for a life you’re able to love and accept completely.
When you boot the incompatibilities from your life, you raise your energy and your consciousness because you’re no longer stuck in a state of resistance. Now you feel relief and freedom. This opens the door to attracting and experiencing what you truly want.

Many people, upon quitting an unfulfilling job or leaving a draining relationship, feel a sense of relief. There may be some anxiety and uncertainty about what to do next, but the feeling of relief is very strong. “Wow, I can breathe again! I’m glad that’s finally over! Time to move on to a new chapter of my life!” Relief feels like a heavy weight has been set down.

Some people think they can attract what they want while continuing to tolerate the negative elements from their lives. This is a mistake. Again, tolerance is resistance, and resistance keeps you stuck. When you resist what is, you can’t create and attract what you want. That resistance you feel acts like a delete key on all your best intentions.

( taken from an article written by steve pavlina)

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kala ghoda festival

Aasra volunteers at the Kala Ghoda Festival...
It was valentines day we hd other plans but ....we all landed up at THE KALA GHODA festival....to promote the cause that we at AASRA believe in ..
WE LISTEN WE CARE.
We distributed more than 3000 book marks with our phone no.and address. We also made numerous people aware about AASRA, AND THE SERVICES WE OFFER

Later we went for the Shankar Ehasan Loy concert and from there proceeded to a stumptious dinner at BADE MIYA..JAI HO!

workshop at marthoma school -govandi

AASRA volunteers conducted a workshop for Parents and Students of STD IX at MARTHOMA SCHOOL-GOVANDI , MUMBAI
the workshop was conducted in 2 shifts from ie.11am to 2pm and 3pm to 5 pm as per the convenience of the parents.

Marthoma school is situtated near the slums of Govandi Station. Its a small school struggling to upgrade its standard of education in any which way it can.
The headmistress is very co-operative and understanding and is completely devoted to helping the students and teachers to cope with LIFE in general and depression , despair and exam pressure in particular.
This workshop was the sixth one that we were ocnducting.
To say that the workshop was a success would be an understatement.
The parents and students left with the understanding that
1. communication is important to enhance realtionships.
2. life is worthwhile and education is an important tool to realise dreams.
3. young adults value their independence.
4. parents say many things in anger but do not really mean to hurt the children.
5. students have to lean to say THANK YOU to their parents
6. they could contact AASRA when they are in despair.

Listening Is Powerful Medicine!

As heard on NPR's Weekend Edition Sunday, February 1, 2009.

I believe listening is powerful medicine.

Studies have shown it takes a physician about 18 seconds to interrupt a patient after they begin talking.

It was Sunday. I had one last patient to see. I approached her room in a hurry and stood at the doorway. She was an older woman, sitting at the edge of the bed, struggling to put socks on her swollen feet. I crossed the threshold, spoke quickly to the nurse, scanned her chart noting she was in stable condition. I was almost in the clear.

I leaned on the bedrail looking down at her. She asked if I could help put on her socks. Instead, I launched into a monologue that went something like this: “How are you feeling? Your sugars and blood pressure were high but they’re better today. The nurse mentioned you’re anxious to see your son who’s visiting you today. It’s nice to have family visit from far away. I bet you really look forward to seeing him. "

She stopped me with a stern, authoritative voice. “Sit down, doctor. This is my story, not your story.”

I was surprised and embarrassed. I sat down. I helped her with the socks. She began to tell me that her only son lived around the corner from her, but she had not seen him in five years. She believed that the stress of this contributed greatly to her health problems. After hearing her story and putting on her socks, I asked if there was anything else I could do for her. She shook her head no and smiled. All she wanted me to do was to listen.

Each story is different. Some are detailed; others are vague. Some have a beginning, middle, and end. Others wander without a clear conclusion. Some are true, others not. Yet all those things do not really matter. What matters to the storyteller is that their story is heard—without interruption, assumption, or judgment.

Listening to someone's story costs less than expensive diagnostic testing but is key to healing and diagnosis.

I often thought of what that woman taught me and reminded myself of the importance of stopping, sitting down, and truly listening. And, not long after, in an unexpected twist, I became the patient with a diagnosis of multiple sclerosis at age 31. Now, 20 years later, I sit all the time—in a wheelchair.

For as long as I could, I continued to see patients from my chair but had to resign when my hands were affected. I still teach med students and other health care professionals, but now from the perspective of physician and patient.

I tell them I believe in the power of listening. I tell them I know first-hand that immeasurable healing takes place within me when someone stops, sits down, and listens to my story.


Dr. Alicia Conill is a clinical associate professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. A native of Cuba, Conill also directs a non-profit that teaches patients and care-givers how to better cope with chronic illness and disability.

at the marathon.....

Aasra volunteers....went for the MUMBAI MARATHON....the Mumbai Marathon is fast becoming an important event in Mumbai.....
its like a carnival of sorts...anyone and everyone can take part in it esp. THE DREAM RUNNNNNNNNNNN....Aasra volunteers..took this opportunity to give out their pamplets and actually gave out 2000 book marks with the Helpline number and the Center address....
i feel it was a feat.....
and of course we volunteers had a lovely time...i laughed a lot....hhaaahaahh

2007 Suicide Statistics, NCRB, Suicide ,Euthanasia & Human Rights

16,632(2369 women) farmer suicides , Mah 4238.
Total 1.2 lakh Suicides in India.
Daily 336 ended lives, 14 every hour
More Men ended lives than woman
Total Student suicides 6248
West Bengal 1,138, Mah 793, Delhi 120, Chennai 117, Banglore 116, Mumbai 82

The Right To Die
'The right to die'Much is made of the right to die as being part and parcel of the right to dignity. This is seen in the plea for a right to die with dignity. At first glance it seems only reasonable to combine the two. However, does it really mean that one can actually procure a death so as to avoid an impending indignity? What then is dignity?
The Supreme Court of India in 1994 passed a verdict that attempted suicide is not a crime but later reverted back to the same old law of it being a punishable act.

Euthanasia
Euthanasia (literally "good death" in Ancient Greek) refers to the practice of ending a life in a painless manner. As of 2008, some forms of euthanasia are legal in Belgium,[1] Luxembourg,[2] The Netherlands,[1] Switzerland,[1] the U.S. states of Oregon[3] and Washington[4] the Autonomous Community of Andalusia (Spain),[5][6] and Thailand.[7] Classification of euthanasia
Euthanasia by consent
Euthanasia may be conducted with consent (voluntary euthanasia) or without consent (involuntary euthanasia). Involuntary euthanasia is conducted where an individual makes a decision for another person incapable of doing so. The decision can be made based on what the incapacitated individual would have wanted, or it could be made on substituted judgment of what the decision maker would want were he or she in the incapacitated person's place, or finally, the decision could be made by assessing objectively whether euthanasia is the most beneficial course of treatment.
Assisted suicide is active, voluntary euthanasia.

Euthanasia by means
Euthanasia may be conducted passively, non-actively, and actively. Passive euthanasia entails the withholding of common treatments (such as antibiotics, pain medications, or surgery) or the distribution of a medication (such as morphine) to relieve pain, knowing that it may also result in death (principle of double effect). Passive euthanasia is the most accepted form, and it is a common practice in most hospitals. Non-active euthanasia entails the withdrawing of life support and is more controversial. Active euthanasia entails the use of lethal substances or forces to kill and is the most controversial means.

Reasons given for voluntary euthanasia:
Choice: Proponents of VE emphasize that choice is a fundamental principle for liberal democracies and free market systems.[8]
Quality of Life: The pain and suffering a person feels during a disease, even with pain relievers, can be incomprehensible to a person who has not gone through it. Even without considering the physical pain, it is often difficult for patients to overcome the emotional pain of losing their independence. [8]
Economic costs and human resources: Today in many countries there is a shortage of hospital space. The energy of doctors and hospital beds could be used for people whose lives could be saved instead of continuing the life of those who want to die which increases the general quality of care and shortens hospital waiting lists. It is a burden to keep people alive past the point they can contribute to society, especially if the resources used could be spent on a curable ailment

Reasons given against voluntary euthanasia:
Professional role: Critics argue that voluntary euthanasia could unduly compromise the professional roles of health care employees, especially doctors.
Moral: Some people consider euthanasia of some or all types to be morally unacceptable.[8] This view usually treats euthanasia to be a type of murder and voluntary euthanasia as a type of suicide
Theological: Voluntary euthanasia has often been rejected as a violation of the sanctity of human life. Accordingly, some theologians and other religious thinkers consider voluntary euthanasia (and suicide generally) as sinful acts, i.e. unjustified killings.[30]

Voluntary Euthanasia
Feasibility of implementation: Euthanasia can only be considered "voluntary" if a patient is mentally competent to make the decision
Necessity: If there is some reason to believe the cause of a patient's illness or suffering is or will soon be curable, the correct action is sometimes considered to attempt to bring about a cure or engage in palliative care.[8]
Wishes of Family: Family members often desire to spend as much time with their loved ones as possible before they die.
Consent under pressure: Given the economic grounds for voluntary euthanasia (VE), critics of VE are concerned that patients may experience psychological pressure to consent to voluntary euthanasia rather than be a financial burden on their families. [31]

Article in Financial Times London mentioning AASRA's work

Financial Times,London
Concern over Indian investors' suicides
By James Lamont in New Delhi
Friday Nov 7 2008 13:35

The global financial crisis is taking its toll in India's cities as some despairing investors and stockbrokers seek refuge from their losses and debt in suicide.

A wave of financially related deaths over the past month has sparked concerns about the vulnerability of unsophisticated investors and borrowers encouraged by rising markets and easy credit in one of the world's fastest growing economies.

"We are seeing a rise in the number of suicides happening as a result of financial pressures," said Johnson Thomas, the director of Aasra, which runs a suicide prevention helpline in Mumbai.
Concern over Indian investors' suicides
By James Lamont in New Delhi
Friday Nov 7 2008 13:35
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"People are committing suicide because of difficulties associated with globalisation and a life all about debt. Lots of people are living beyond their means."

As billions of rupees have been wiped off the Bombay Stock Exchange, Aasra has started holding outreach sessions in India's financial capital for distressed workers at financial institutions and the bourse.

A 24-year-old stockbroker in Hyderabad was one of the latest casualties of the markets fall. Police said Amir Ali Virani of Omen Solutions had taken his life after losing money when the Sensex index fell below 8,000 points last month. He was found hanging from a ceiling fan at his home.

A few days earlier in the same city, Bhupendra, another stockbroker, blew himself up with his wife and baby son by igniting a gas cylinder.

In spite of assurances by Manmohan Singh, India's prime minister, that the country is resilient to the credit crisis, death for some is preferable to the shame of financial loss. Police in Mumbai last month discovered a family destroyed by overwhelming credit card debt. Seventy-year-old A. K. Nair and his wife had swallowed poison. Their middle-aged daughter and son had hanged themselves. Between them, they had 73 credit cards. The siblings had two cars and had taken out a bank loan to start a new business.

Also in Mumbai, a 34-year-old stock market investor, Parag Tanna, killed himself and his pregnant wife. In a suicide note to his mother, Mr Tanna, who had lost his job with a brokerage, said he saw no way out of his personal financial crisis.

Police estimate that 118,000 people in India killed themselves in 2006, a rise of 34 per cent over a decade.

About 1,000 farmers hit by crop failure and debt kill themselves every month, often with lethal draughts of insecticide, according to official figures.